Notes from the Matchmaker - Wayward Hearts Matchmaking

If you've read Carley Fortune's This Summer Will BeDifferent, you know the story. A summer on Prince Edward Island. An oystershucker. One electric night.

I lived a version of it.

In my late twenties, I worked evenings at an oyster bar onPEI. One night a tall, dark, pirate-looking champion oyster shucker walked through the door. The chemistry was instant on both sides. It was also never going to be more than one hot summer.

In this episode, I explain what's happening in your brainwhen attraction hits. That feeling starts things, but it can't keep them going.

In this episode:

• The neurochemistry behind instant attraction: dopamine, oxytocin and serotonin
• Why chasing that high can keep you from building something that lasts
• Why a slow sunrise outlasts a lightening bolt

This is a companion to Episode 4, Chemistry Is Not aLightning Bolt.

I'm Cheryl Dalziel, founder of Wayward Hearts Matchmaking onPrince Edward Island. Notes from the Matchmaker is where I talk about love, dating and what it actually takes to find the right person.

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Where did we get the idea that love has to hit like alightning bolt? Movies, romance novels and reality TV taught us that instantattraction is the measure of everything. If you don't feel it on the firstdate, it isn't there.

That isn't true. And believing it may be costing you theright person.

In this episode, I share two stories from my own life. Inboth, the chemistry was real and profound. It arrived quietly, after real attention had been paid.

In this episode:

• Where the lightening bolt myth comes from
• Why chemistry built on real knowing deepens instead of burning out
• The question to ask yourself about the people you walked away from

I'm Cheryl J. Dalziel, founder of Wayward Hearts Matchmakingon Prince Edward Island. Notes from the Matchmaker is where I talk about love,dating and what it actually takes to find the right person.

waywardhearts.ca

Everyone has a list. The height requirement. The age range. The exact way they need to make you laugh before you have had your coffee. We carry these lists around like they are protecting us. And in a way they are -- just not in the way we think. In this episode I want to talk about what your list is actually telling me as a matchmaker. Because it means something very different to me than it does to you. And it might be the thing standing between you and the person you are actually looking for.

Dating apps are broken and you already know it. Every ghost, every awkward date, every moment of misplaced hope has cost you something. In this episode I want to tell you what changes when someone is actually in your corner -- doing the vetting, asking the uncomfortable questions, and standing between you and the part of this process that has hurt you before. This is why matchmaking exists. And this is why it works.

How does a farm girl from Rustico, PEI end up as a matchmaker after forty years in public policy, international development, and conflict resolution? The answer involves Paris, Botswana, Hurricane Fiona, and a sixtieth birthday. This is where it all started.