notes on being unruly

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  • 32: Are food rules running - and ruining - your life?

    We’re all so ready to start breaking those rigid rules around food. Nutritionist Kate Wall unpacks how “healthy eating” can slip into socially acceptable disordered patterns. We explore the patterns of food policing shame and the unhelpfulness of restrictive rules, and what it looks like to eat in a way that actually matches your life.

    We talk about:

    • When “healthy eating” becomes socially acceptable disordered eating
    • The many forms of food policing: external, internal, and invisible
    • How shame fuels the restrict–crave cycle
    • Why it feels so exhausting to live by rigid food rules
    • Moving from food rules to flexible, values-led guidelines
    • Letting go of morality around food (good vs bad, earned vs burned)
    • Rebuilding self-trust through small, consistent choices
    • What it looks like to eat in a way that actually matches your life, not the one you think you should be living
    • Countering fear-based narratives around ultra-processed foods
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      49 min
    • 31: Maybe you're not supposed to have all the right answers

      Founder of Aligned Insights Coaching, Erin Heisel, shares her unruly path from academia to coaching: leaving rigid systems, questioning “objectivity,” and building a business by following intuition and a spark instead of a plan. This is a gorgeous, heart-led conversation about self-trust, creative ownership and what becomes possible when make your move before you have all the right answers. 

      We talk about:

      • Building a business by following your curiosity and joy, not rigid plans and strategy
      • The decision to leave academia and question its many hidden rules
      • Who gets to claim ideas in research, challenging notions of “objectivity” and questioning what “originality” really means
      • Bringing your voice and lived experience into research
      • Following what lights you up without needing to know all the answers
      • How to cultivate a state of openness and readiness to receive
      • Knowing when to hold structure vs when to stay open
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        Website: alignedinsightcoaching.com

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        41 min
      • Special Episode: You're not as "bad with accounts" as you think

        Let’s do it - let’s demystify the horrors of Taxes... Accounting…. Your bank balance ARGGGG!

        I’m joined by Clare Marsh who set up an accountancy practice specifically to support women business owners in the UK and to bring proper understanding, support and even a little joy back into our business accounts.

        Clare brings warmth, clarity and a refreshing dose of practicality to a topic that we often approach with anxiety  and confusion. We talk about why finances feel so emotionally charged, how asking for help (even for what we think are “dumb questions”) is a bloody good thing, and what actually matters when it comes to running the financial side of your business.

        We get down to brass tacks, and even have a good laugh about:

        • Clare’s journey from corporate burnout to building a values-led accountancy practice
        • Taking down the patriarchy by reclaiming control over our business accounts
        • How we shame ourselves for not knowing everything and why that’s a totally inaccurate, unfair way of doing business
        • Practical, accessible steps for small business owners who want to feel more in control of their finances
        • How to start asking for help with your business
        • Why accountants need support too (and actually don’t know everything)
        • 🎧 When you’re finally ready to take back control of your accounts - and stop letting it feel like such a drudgery - you’ll want to get in on this ep.

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          On her website: herbusinesscounts.co.uk

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          46 min
        • Trailer: notes on being unruly

          It's been a long time coming - a breaking up with all those outdated rules we've carted around for years. This is a podcast  about questioning the social and cultural scripts around success, identity and work, and sharing the messy, human stories behind choosing differently. No step-by-step guides, rigid strategies or ordered plans. Just real, authentic conversations about living life on your own terms - however 'unruly' that looks! 

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          * See what she does on her website
          * Connect on LinkedIn 
          * Follow on Instagram: @unrulyjamiepei

          4 min
        • 29: "You should finish your work before you play"

          I’m joined by the luminous Sue Anderson, massively successful copywriter and the visionary behind Wild Woods Retreat, a 30-acre haven she built (literally with her own hands) in the Smoky Mountains to help entrepreneurs step out of hustle culture and back into their bodies and creativity.

          Sue’s story is the quiet but life-changing revolution so many of us need: after 17 years of nonstop grind, raising children while running a booming copywriting agency and doing all the “right” things the hustle bros told her to do… she hit burnout - and hard.

          Then she started getting out into nature and playing more.

          That eventually led to relaxing more, deeper nervous system regulation and finally one day, the wild spontaneous idea to sell up everything, buy land and create a retreat centre for entrepreneurs to begin doing the same.

          In this super energising convo, we chat about

          ✨ How hustle culture hijacks our nervous systems and tricks us into believing rest is something we must earn

          ✨ Why your best ideas arrive when you stop trying and let your whole self take a damn break

          ✨ The neuroscience of rest and why being “unproductive” is often the smartest business move you can make

          ✨ How sensory rest, boredom and slowing down unlock creativity and problem-solving

          ✨ Why nature regulates us in ways Netflix simply can’t

          ✨ The power of simple practices like sit spots, forest bathing and tiny micro-moments outdoors

          ✨ The gorgeous philosophy behind Wild Woods Retreat: a place for entrepreneurs to soften, breathe, hear themselves again and remember that they are part of something bigger and far more abundant than their to-do list.

          🎧 This is the reminder we all need that we absolutely don’t have to finish all the work before we get to play. And maybe, just maybe, to go find your own sit spot after listening.

          ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review—it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too!

          🌻 Connect with Sue

          Learn about Wild Woods Retreat: wildwoodsretreat.com

          Sue’s podcast, Entrepreneurs Gone Wild: entrepreneursgonewild.com

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          51 min
        • 28: "I should have my life sorted out by now"

          I’m joined by Lesley Andrew, artist and trauma-informed art psychotherapist and creator of the PACE framework, for a rich reality-check convo about the pressure to “have your life sorted out” and how that expectation keeps so many of us feeling behind, stuck or not enough.

          Lesley shares how art and creativity can support emotional regulation, give us access to feelings we struggle to articulate and help us navigate life transitions - the ones we’ve chosen and the ones that spring unexpectedly on us - with more compassion.

          We explore the societal scripts that tell us what life should look like, and how to reclaim your own pace, your own path and your own definition of a “sorted” life.

          Join us to explore:

          • The healing power of art when you’re struggling to find the words to express how you really feel
          • Emotional regulation through crafting and making: knitting, collage, scribbling, paint and all creative forms
          • How to navigate life changes like perimenopause, illness, grief, and unconventional life choices with more grace and kindness for ourselves
          • The societal timeline of “sorted adulthood” and what it means to break away from it
          • Lesley’s PACE Framework — Pause, Act, Create, Empower — and how to use it to move through stuckness and life challenges
          • 🎧 This is for you if you’ve ever felt you need to ‘sort your life out’ because chances are, as Lesley will show you, you already have. You just need to own it.

            ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review. It’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too!

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            Connect with Lesley

            Access Lesley’s free online course Fill My Cup - prioritising self care for those who usually put others first

            Sign up for Lesley’s newsletter and download her free Art Heals Workbook here

            Check out her website at lesleyandrew.com

            Follow Lesley on Instagram @lesley_andrew_art.therapist

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            56 min
          • 27: Who should you be(come)? Quantum leap into your highest, most successful self

            In this hugely energising episode, I talk with own coach and ‘sifu’ Karli Whitwell, a quantum self-concept and manifestation mentor who blends NLP, hypnotherapy, neuroscience and identity work to help women rewrite their reality and start calling in their goals and desires fast.

            We unpack why strategy alone doesn’t quite work… and why the real power sits in who you are being, not just what you’re doing.

            Karli breaks down how our identities and beliefs form in earliest childhood, why our subconscious runs the show and how we can really begin to create life-changing and sustainable results. She shows us that you really can have everything you want - and how to get it. 

            We deep dive:

            ✨ how your self-concept shapes your 3D reality

            ✨ why the Law of Attraction doesn’t always work and how to replace it with the Law of Assumption instead

            ✨ how to flip limiting beliefs and rewire your neural pathways for better outcomes now

            ✨ how the quantum model shows that all versions of you already exist - including the most successful ones you’re dreaming of

            ✨ what it looks like to embody your future identity right now

            ✨ AND how to hold your new massively successful identity even when your 3D reality hasn’t caught up yet

            Karli also shares personal stories and practices, including the wild manifestation of her dream life through a nightly 20-second “future movie” (which you can do too!)

            🎧 If you’ve ever wondered why you “do all the things” but still feel stuck … this episode is your catalyst to ditch the shoulds, choose the reality you actually want to live in and create it right now.

            ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review. It’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too!

            Connect with Karli

            Learn more and apply to Karli’s High Calibre Mastermind here

            Follow and connect with Karli on all these platforms:

            • TikTok: @karliwhitwell
            • Beacons: @manifestationmentorkarli
            • Instagram: @manifestationmentorkarli
            • Podcast: Thrive with Karli Whitwell on Spotify and Apple Podcasts
            • YouTube: @manifestationmentorkarli
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              57 min
            • 26: Unbecoming the Good Girl I Thought I Should Be

              I’m joined by Anna Campbell — founder of The Good Girl Rebellion, author of the book by the same name, and all-round champion for women ready to break free from people-pleasing and being the rule-abiding good girl.

              Together, we talk about what it really means to do business and life your way, using ease and joy as your compass, and how to let go of all the inherited “shoulds” about what success should look like for women today.

              This conversation is full of permission slips: to take up space, to do things differently, to start small, and to build slowly and intentionally - your way. Anna’s blend of psychology, strategy and feisty, loving rebellion will leave you feeling both seen and inspired to make your business (and your life) more you.

              In this episode, we explore:

              • Breaking free from “good girl” conditioning — and why it’s about owning who you are, not changing it
              • How joy, ease and rest are acts of rebellion in a culture that glorifies hustle
              • The power of side hustles, small beginnings and building a “little, slow business”
              • Navigating very real financial and family commitments while pursuing your dreams
              • Letting yourself be multi-passionate and following your interests without guilt
              • Visibility, self-belief and redefining what it means to be “full of yourself”
              • Rebels, unite! Listen in now and get ready to break out of your Good Girl shackles. Your rebellious, most fulfilling life is waiting on the other side.

                ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review—it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too!

                Follow Anna on Instagram: @annaccampbell

                Learn more about Anna on her website: goodgirlrebellion.com

                Listen to Anna’s co-hosted podcast Full of Ourselves: fullofourselvespod.com

                Follow Full of Ourselves podcast on Instagram @fullofourselvespodcast

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                57 min
              • 25: "I should take care of everyone else first"

                Today, I’m joined by the gorgeous Jo Bibby, nutritional wellness and energy coach and founder of The Energised Woman.

                Jo’s coaching and mentoring work is rooted in one simple, life-changing truth: when women put themselves back at the centre of their own care and needs, everyone benefits and everything gets better.

                Jo shares her own journey from postpartum depression and exhaustion to becoming an advocate for holistic self-care. She also shares her thoughts and advice around:

                ✨ The five core pillars of wellbeing: nutrition and gut health, movement, hydration, rest and sleep, and purpose and connection

                ✨ The cultural and personal pressures that keep women running on empty

                ✨ Practical, doable ways to build micro-moments of rest and self-care into everyday life - even when things feel busy and overwhelming

                ✨ Why rest is truly resistance and the incredible knock-on effects it has on everything else we do

                ✨ How community, support and self-advocacy can genuinely transform your health and joy

                We explore why so many women find it so hard to rest, the blocks that stop us from looking after ourselves, and how we can begin to give ourselves that much deserved care.

                This isn’t something that’s selfish or yet another thing to add to our to-do lists. It’s the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and the people we care about.

                🎧 Listen now to start reclaiming control and power over your days and your health.

                ❤ If you loved this episode, please subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review. It’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too!

                Connect with Jo:

                Join Jo’s membership: The Energised Woman Collective

                Follow Jo on Instagram: @theenergisedwoman

                Learn more about how to work with Jo on her website: livelifewellness.co.uk

                Check out Jo’s The Energised Woman Podcast

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                52 min
              • 24: "I should scale my business for wealth and success”

                On the podcast this ep: my brilliant coach and mentor, Juliane Nietsche, a business strategist and corporate positioning coach who has built not one, but two multi six-figure businesses without ever following the traditional rules of success.

                Juliane’s story is a refreshing reminder that you DON’T have to tick every box, follow every template, or “scale at all costs” to enjoy massive success. She quit an MBA and moved to Paris for love; started a business when broke; and now lives in glorious Monaco working just 2-3 hours a day and regularly signing multiple 5-figure contracts with corporate clients.

                All while leading herself almost entirely by intuition, her core values and an unshakable belief in herself. NOT, as we’d imagine, by following conventional business advice, rules and strategies “to scale”.

                We chat all things business, but not the way you’d expect:

                ✨ How she navigated the messy, real beginnings of entrepreneurship

                ✨ Why conventional business wisdom isn’t always wise or practical

                ✨ Choosing personalised quality over constant scaling

                ✨ The power of kindness and authenticity in business

                ✨ Myths and realities of working with corporate clients

                Juliane’s perspective is both grounding and inspiring - a sweet, relieving balm to anyone exhausted by hustle culture and the pressure to follow the latest ‘strategy’.

                🎧 Come this way to discover how you can follow your own nose and create wild success by it.

                ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review; it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too!

                 

                Juliane’s special offer for podcast listeners! DM her the word “NICHE” on Instagram (@female.fortune.founders), and she’ll personally send you a custom corporate niche finder video — built using their private AI tool — to help you identify your most profitable niche in the corporate world.

                Learn more about Juliane’s Birkin Business Academy here

                Connect with Juliane:

                on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/julianenitsche

                on Instagram @female.fortune.founders

                on Youtube: @FemaleFortuneFounders

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                56 min

              About notes on being unruly

              From the publisher's feed

              It's been a long time coming - a breaking up with all those outdated rules we've carted around for years. This is a podcast  about questioning the social and cultural scripts around success, identity and work, and sharing the messy, human stories behind choosing differently. No step-by-step guides, rigid strategies or ordered plans. Just real, authentic conversations about living life on your own terms - however 'unruly' that looks!