Michael Yarbrough — associate professor of Law & Society at John Jay College of Criminal Justice and sociology at the CUNY Graduate Center — joins Vance and Rachel to talk about what it means to be intentionally childfree, how we think about family and kinship too narrowly, and why so many of our care relationships don't have names — or policies to support them.
Why "childfree" and "childless" aren't the same word, and why the distinction mattersHow childfree people experience workplace accommodation, and why the conversation still tends to require framing care around someone elseWhy infrastructure — housing costs, transportation, the built environment — is often the missing piece in conversations about family supportSouth Africa's child support grant program and what it models about giving people resources without red tapeMichael's take on Mrs. Dalloway and The Hours as stories about self-actualization, relational freedom, and the ways relationships both enable and constrain itMentioned in this episode:
Abigail Ocobock's research on marriage availability and LGBTQ adult life course expectations, including her book Marriage Material (University of Chicago Press, 2024)Brady G'Sell's work on social reproduction and kinship in South AfricaMark Granovetter's "The Strength of Weak Ties" (1973)Mrs. Dalloway by Virginia WoolfThe Hours — film directed by Stephen Daldry, based on the 1998 novel by Michael CunninghamA Room of One's Own bookstore, Madison, WisconsinSign up for the Nurturing Minds newsletter, in which we share more about the psychology and philosophy of parenthood, but with pop culture memes: nurturing-minds.beehiiv.com
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