Recorded: 1/20/2019 / Published: 1/23/2019
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First, a deep into the woods about nurturing positive dominant qualities within one's self. First, I am going to give you a tool to help you figure out what you are already dealing with.
Second, I’m going to share with you the things that I feel should be commonly found character traits for those on the left side of the slash...if not both.

[1:04] Rules to Love by:
Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

[1:28] PAD Temperament Mode ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PAD_emotional_state_model )
In order to know the best things in oneself to nurture we first need to know what is already there. For this, we are going to take a look at the PAD emotional state model which today typical is only used for marketing and developing multidimensional animated characters...but hey, if you can give a cartoon layered emotions and make them come alive on the silver screen with this then it has to have some kind of credibility and usability for us, right? ...

[4:25] Pleasure
The Pleasure-Displeasure Scale measures how pleasant or unpleasant one feels about something. For instance, both anger and fear are unpleasant emotions and both score on the displeasure side. However, joy is a pleasant emotion.
[4:57] Arousal
The Arousal-Nonarousal Scale measures how energized or soporific one feels. It is not the intensity of the emotion -- for grief and depression can be low arousal intense feelings. While both anger and rage are unpleasant emotions, rage has a higher intensity or a higher arousal state. However, boredom, which is also an unpleasant state, has a low arousal value.
[5:43] Dominance
The Dominance-Submissiveness Scale represents the controlling and dominant versus controlled or submissive one feels. For instance, while both fear and anger are unpleasant emotions, anger is a dominant emotion, while fear is a submissive emotion.

So now, how do these three things tie together in determining what is what? Let’s say that something happened and you became angry. You would give the emotion of anger values for each of the three sections of the PAD emotional state model. For some this might look like this: Anger is a quite unpleasant, quite aroused, and moderately dominant emotion. While for others it might like: Anger is moderately pleasant, mildly aroused, and mildly dominant emotion.
Now, use all this in emotions and environmental situations. This means that you are not just looking at the feeling itself but also taking a look a specific setting, with certain people at a restaurant, in a dungeon, … the locations, situations, and emotions is an endless sea of possibilities so this is one of those life exercises that you will need to constantly and consistently come back to for further exploration but be careful not to burn yourself out on it as it can also be pretty exhausting.

[10:23] Ok, so now that you have examined a few emotions using the PAD emotional state model, what have you figured out about yourself? Where do you need to the most work? The areas where the arousal is high that it creates a situation out of your control might be a good place to start along with anything that causes debilitating anxiety, stress, or depression.

[11:41] “...and...how do I go about...