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The Observer Meditation explores the benefits for you to detach from your internal thoughts and feelings— helping us accept who we are and allow compassion to flow for ourself.

Developing our ability to take an observer viewpoint can help us put some distance between who we are and any problem areas, relationships, issues in our life. Helping us to move past the ego and over identifying with those problem areas in life regardless of whether they are temporary or permanent.

To begin the exercise, follow these steps:

1. Take a comfortable seated or lying on your back position.
2. Let yourself settle into your body and your mind.
3. Softly close your eyes or lower your gaze and stare at a fixed point.
4. Feel your body grounded in that place/seat.
5. Notice any thoughts and or  emotions you are experiencing now. Aim to observe any thoughts and focus on just being here in this moment to moment. Aim to let go of thoughts as they arise and pass through.
6. Focus your attention inward - first to a mental image of the room you’re in. Picture yourself from the outside as you sit/lie, exactly as an outsider might. Next, shift your attention inwards into your skin. Aim to feel your skin as you are sitting/lying down.
7. Aim to imagine the shape that your skin is making as it comes into contact with firmer surfaces.
8. Now move your awareness toward any physical sensations you are experiencing. As you feel each one, acknowledge its existence before letting your awareness let go of it and move on to another sensation.

If you find any emotions coming up, recognize them and create space for them, accept them and give them room to come and go. Then bring your attention back to your observing self—your feelings and thoughts are there, but you are separate from them, noticing them. This is the “Observer you”.

This exercise can be continued for as long as desired, or just be as long as a single stage. However you use this meditation you are building your capacity to create space between you, your thoughts and feelings. From a single minute to longer these stages will help you develop your mindful practice - being an observer of yourself, your human experience. Be patient with yourself and avoid the desire to judge or react or when you notice you are doing this just direct your mind to your breath. 

The goal of evoking the Observing Self is to enter observer mode which allows you to step back from yourself and your experiences

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