Did anyone ever say this to you after your divorce?

In this episode of Okay, So Here’s the Deal, we’re unpacking one of the most misunderstood—and weaponized—ideas women face after divorce: being alone vs. being lonely.

Alone is a physical state.

I break down why so many women felt lonelier inside their marriage than they ever do after leaving it—and how learning to be alone can actually lead to peace, self-trust, and deeper connection. We’ll also talk honestly about those moments when loneliness does show up, including how I navigated the emotional aftermath of my ex’s remarriage.

You’ll learn:

If you’re learning how to find yourself again after divorce—and wondering whether peace is possible—this episode is for you.

Buckle up, gorgeous.

 In this episode of Okay, So Here’s the Deal, we’re talking about Trigger Days those holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, or special events that bring up unexpected emotions after leaving a high-conflict marriage.

Many women find that joyful occasions feel tainted because of past trauma. Even when the marriage or relationship is over, memories and triggers can sneak up sometimes when you least expect it. I share my personal experience of being blindsided by emotions on the anniversary of leaving my marriage, and how I turned that moment into a learning and healing opportunity.

I also introduce the Trigger Day Toolkit, a step-by-step method to retrain your nervous system. By proactively identifying potential triggers on your calendar and planning positive, intentional experiences—solo, with family, or with friends you can replace painful memories with joyful ones.

This episode is about taking back control of your emotional calendar, honoring your feelings, and creating space for happiness—even on the days you’ve dreaded for years.

You’re not alone. You can reclaim your joy.

Even after leaving a high-conflict or narcissistic relationship, many women continue to operate in survival mode, reacting to situations as if everyone is out to manipulate them.

In this episode, I unpack why reactivity and hyper-sensitivity linger after divorce and share strategies to shift from automatic responses to intentional, peaceful reactions.

I also show how to use the 7-step goal-setting method from Episode 1 to retrain your nervous system and create calm, clarity, and emotional control.

This episode is perfect for women healing after toxic relationships, looking to reclaim self-trust, and ready to move from survival mode into their You 2.0 self.

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