If you saw Oliver, you’d see a big, bearded, force to be reckoned with. What you wouldn’t see is the soft-hearted father of girls who cried during “Disney on Ice.” In this episode, Oliver talks about growing up with fundamentalist expectations of “manliness,” his struggle to find a safe therapist in his adulthood, and his journey to healing from an extremely traumatic experience that stuck with him for years after it happened.

Oliver dives into specifics about what methods worked for him in therapy, how he went from deep shame to gratefulness, and how his perception of himself has changed after years of work with his trusted therapist.