Mark Fidelman, and an anonymous guest (referred to as "Brenda") Key Highlights:

• Guest is an attorney and business owner in San Diego

• Divorced since 2016 with three children (19, 17, and 15)

• Experienced significant challenges with the family court system

Major Topics:

1. Child Welfare Services (CWS)

• Ineffective and toxic handling of child protection cases

• Multiple reports of child abuse were largely ignored

1. Divorce and Custody Challenges

• Initially had 70% physical custody

• Ex-husband had history of corporal punishment and verbal abuse

• Mediator recommended reducing custody to 50/50 without substantial justification

1. Legal Strategies

• Filed a contempt action against ex-husband for hitting children

• Creative custody arrangement to maintain primary care

• Used MyTalkingParents for communication documentation

Key Advice:

• Avoid family court if possible

• Ensure detailed divorce agreements with specific clauses

• Focus on children's well-being and safety

• Unconditional love from one parent can overcome challenging family dynamics

Action Items:

• Include no corporal punishment clause in divorce agreements

• Be specific about extracurricular activity cost-sharing

• Document all communications

• Prioritize children's emotional and physical safety

Systemic Criticisms:

• Family court system is potentially corrupt

• Judges often rubber-stamp mediator recommendations

• Judicial immunity protects problematic judicial behavior

Conclusion: The guest emphasized that "winning in life" matters more than winning in court, and maintaining unconditional love for children is paramount. Donate at  Http://www.kidsmatter.charity