Great questions may be the most powerful tool we have for honest introspection. The most transformative questions are usually simple while being the most difficult to answer. All of us know of people or scenarios that continue to cause us emotional pain.

Blaming others (even when it's warranted) is not helpful. It doesn't mitigate future issues, and worse, it allows you to side-step any of the blame.

Here is the most profound question I've learned to force honest introspection when history repeats itself in a negative way: How am I complicit in creating the conditions that I say I don't want?