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Summer, no one appreciates what I do. I could wake up at 3:00 am and bust my fanny til midnight and no one will care, and they sure as heckwads won’t say thank you. That sounds spectacularly painful, and as the mom of many, I understand where you’re coming from. Let’s get something straight right now. They are never going to give you the appreciation you deserve. Never. No one can ever appreciate you properly, because they are not having your experience, and they can’t possibly comprehend the internal effort you’re making on their behalf. But you can. And the fact that you’re doing it without the appreciation you deserve makes it all the more praiseworthy. Let the gift of your service be a gift to yourself as well by viewing it as a privilege.
"Heart Coach" James “Fish” Gill once said “I have ritual times with myself where I actually acknowledge to myself what I’m experiencing. I’ve discovered that acknowledging myself for what I’m going through is really the only acknowledgment that I can be sure that I can ever get. And validation. And forgiveness actually... ...No human being can ever really bring us the depth of acknowledgment that we know they deserve. They can’t. Because they don’t know the depth to which we know we deserve it.” This man actually holds his own hand and talks to himself, offering appreciation and encouragement.
He acknowledged on the excellent Human Cogs Podcast, that it may sound weird, but he doesn’t care, because it has made all the difference in his emotional health.
I encourage you to try it. It really does feel good. Squeeze your hands together and say “Linda, I love you. You are working harder than anyone knows. And you exercised great courage in reaching out to Jim today and listening. I send you all the love.”
You can coach your family to say “thank you”, and I encourage you to do that, but it will never be more than a feeble token of what you truly deserve. What if you decided right now to make peace with that?
What is this episode bringing up for you? Let's talk about it on Instagram.
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By Summer CoxSummer, no one appreciates what I do. I could wake up at 3:00 am and bust my fanny til midnight and no one will care, and they sure as heckwads won’t say thank you. That sounds spectacularly painful, and as the mom of many, I understand where you’re coming from. Let’s get something straight right now. They are never going to give you the appreciation you deserve. Never. No one can ever appreciate you properly, because they are not having your experience, and they can’t possibly comprehend the internal effort you’re making on their behalf. But you can. And the fact that you’re doing it without the appreciation you deserve makes it all the more praiseworthy. Let the gift of your service be a gift to yourself as well by viewing it as a privilege.
"Heart Coach" James “Fish” Gill once said “I have ritual times with myself where I actually acknowledge to myself what I’m experiencing. I’ve discovered that acknowledging myself for what I’m going through is really the only acknowledgment that I can be sure that I can ever get. And validation. And forgiveness actually... ...No human being can ever really bring us the depth of acknowledgment that we know they deserve. They can’t. Because they don’t know the depth to which we know we deserve it.” This man actually holds his own hand and talks to himself, offering appreciation and encouragement.
He acknowledged on the excellent Human Cogs Podcast, that it may sound weird, but he doesn’t care, because it has made all the difference in his emotional health.
I encourage you to try it. It really does feel good. Squeeze your hands together and say “Linda, I love you. You are working harder than anyone knows. And you exercised great courage in reaching out to Jim today and listening. I send you all the love.”
You can coach your family to say “thank you”, and I encourage you to do that, but it will never be more than a feeble token of what you truly deserve. What if you decided right now to make peace with that?
What is this episode bringing up for you? Let's talk about it on Instagram.
bethechangeinyourmarriage.onuniverse.com