Parents who’ve been divorced often ask me this question: “What should I do when my ex enforces different rules with the kids?”

Maintaining consistency in your teen’s life can be a challenge, especially if she spends part of her week somewhere else. But be careful not to change the boundaries, rules, and consequences in your own home just to make it a more attractive place to be. You should always keep your child’s best interests at heart, regardless of what your ex does or doesn’t do.

Remember, kids are resilient in these situations. As your teen grows older, she’ll gravitate toward the parent she believes wants the best for her. And one day, she’ll look back and thank you for helping her get to a better place.

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