Most couples don’t wake up one day and suddenly feel distant—disconnection is the result of neglected intentional marriage habits, tiny drifts, and conversations that never happen.

In this episode of Optimizing Beyond, Josh and his wife Ashley get real about what it actually takes to stay best friends after years together. From drifting “side by side on separate rafts” to turning toward each other daily, they unpack how small, consistent choices protect connection, trust, and respect over the long haul.

They talk practical rhythms, not perfection—things like sending the small “I see you” texts, scheduling time together in busy seasons with kids or careers, and learning when to listen instead of fix. They also dive into check-ins, emotional safety, who you’re allowed to vent to (and who you’re absolutely not), and how faith and modern gender roles can work together instead of compete.

Takeaways:

• Practice daily micro-moments of connection.
• Use relationship check-ins before resentment builds.
• Choose curiosity over judgment in conflict.
• Guard who you talk to about your spouse.
• See roles as teamwork, not competition.

Optimizing Beyond is a podcast designed to help you live beyond every limit.

Hosted by Josh Negron, entrepreneur, leader, and serial optimizer.

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