We talk a lot about men’s bad behavior in dating (and trust me, they give us plenty of material), but this week we’re turning the mirror around. In this episode of Flirt. Fail. Repeat., Rachel digs into the habits, mindsets, and red flags that women bring to the table—yes, even the ones we’d rather not admit to.

From “pick-me” girl tendencies to ignoring red flags, self-sabotage, and the myths we cling to about love, this conversation is equal parts funny, raw, and a little uncomfortable. Because sometimes, our biggest enemy in dating isn’t the guy across the table—it’s us.