They offered tips like “checking in on each other” or going to sleep at the same time whenever possible. Of course, it won’t work if one person isn’t willing to put in some effort—and put their own needs aside.

But they found that when couples put their spouses needs before their own—a breakthrough occurs! This is a great episode for anyone who’s feeling disconnected from their partner and looking for actionable ways to increase bonding, form new responses, and create new healthy habits.