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Outgrowing Yourself Hurts and That’s How You Know It’s Working

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In this episode, I talk about a part of growth that doesn’t get named nearly enough—the grief that comes with outgrowing who you used to be.

When old strategies, identities, and relationships no longer fit, growth can feel less like expansion and more like subtraction.

I explore why this transition feels so uncomfortable, how the nervous system clings to familiarity even when it costs us, and why letting go of what once protected you is a necessary part of becoming who you’re meant to be.

If you’re in the messy middle of your next level, feeling restless, lonely, or unsettled, this conversation is for you.

     

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:     

  • Growth often feels painful because you’re shedding identities that once kept you safe

  • The brain craves familiarity, even when it no longer serves you

  • Grief isn’t regression—it’s evidence that you’re leaving something behind

  • Old coping strategies can resurface during stress if they’re not consciously released

  • Outgrowing people doesn’t mean rejecting them—it means refusing to abandon yourself

  • Not everyone will come with you when you evolve, and that’s part of the process

  • Growth can feel lonely even when it’s healthy

  • Letting go of survival strategies creates space for thriving

  • You don’t owe consistency to people who benefited from your self-betrayal

  • Growth without grief isn’t real growth

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    Links and Resources:

    Follow Terri-Ann Richards: https://terriannrichards.com/

    The Happy Stack Newsletter: https://happystack.substack.com/

    Success Takes Courage Book: https://a.co/d/dgOqpbj

    Becoming the Eight Percent Book: https://a.co/d/gcqxerH

      

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