Nicola and Judith discuss the Karpman Drama Triangle, what is it, which role do you take up and how can you step outside of the drama in your business and your life?   In The Show Nicola updates us on what she’s learned this week about willpower, and also about adapting Michael Marshall Smith’s short stories into screenplays. Judith’s moved house again, back to where she was last autumn and she’s enjoying the underfloor heating and the phone signal.   What's Fuelled Their Fire? Judith’s enjoying a reading week – a client’s first crime novel, plus Pam Grout’s commentary on A Course in Miracles. Nicola’s discovered more about Helen Pritchard’s LinkedIn training and joined her waiting list FB group, and been inspired by a couple of her ideas for her next BEO challenge plus one from another coach who offers unlimited laser coaching sessions.   Focus Of The Week Nicola and Judith discuss the Karpman Drama Triangle, what is it, which role do you take up and how can you step outside of the drama in your business and your life? Here are two articles which explain it.  Linda Graham  Rachel Turner You might also enjoy KarpmanDramaTriangle.com LISTEN HERE TO OWN IT #261 | Victim, Rescuer or Persecutor?   Words Of The Week Nicola chooses Distraction (Nir Eyal, blamers, shamers and claimers) and Judith picks Fixer (avoid rescuing at all costs).   Project Updates Nicola explains why she fell at the Daily Blogging Challenge hurdle on Day 4 but is still highly motivated by her LinkedIn work with snippets from Own It!   Who Or What's Impressed Nicola is really pleased with her Tesla shares performance in her new SIPP and Judith loves her latest Abraham find – General Well-Being 2.0 *** Join our free Facebook Group for Own It! the Podcast and talk back to us about what you hear in the show. Support our podcast on Patreon with a few monthly dollars to help defray our costs - thank you!   Thanks for listening! To share your thoughts: Leave a rating and review via your podcast app Ask a question in our Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/OwnItThePodcast/  To help the show: Subscribe via  Radio Public,  iTunes, Stitcher,  YouTube, TuneIn, Libsyn https://ownitthepodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/download-pdf-300.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="50" /> Please share on Twitter, Facebook or whatever social media platform you love to use and tag us if you can - we love to read your comments! Website: https://OwnItThePodcast.com

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Nicola explains that she and Judith have decided to make today’s show their last. Together they review what they’ve learned in their businesses and their lives...   In The Show Nicola and Judith have decided that today’s show will be their last. What are they moving on to? Nicola’s sister Sarah was 50 this week and they had a lovely family celebration for her. Nelson is camping in Wales and Phoebe and Nicola went into Brighton to Eat Out to Help Out. Judith also enjoyed seeing her family for the first time in eight months, and she’s preparing to move on from her current house sit while still enjoying her Staycation. #movingon #birthdays #family #TheFall #PokeItPodcast #change #staycation #completion #surgecapacity   What's Fuelled Their Fire? Judith loves Riana’s question on behalf of a client, about accruals and prepayments. And Nicola has astonished herself by becoming interested in economics, specially Jackson Hole.   Focus Of The Week - Moving On Nicola explains that she and Judith have decided to make today’s show their last. Together they review what they’ve learned in their businesses and their lives and in the podcast over 290 shows and talk about why they feel they are ready to move on.   Words Of The Week Judith chooses Completion and Nicola picks Change.   Project Updates Judith’s finally finished her Jordan Peterson self-authoring program, and Nicola says that by the time this show (290) goes live, listeners will be able to hear her new podcast with Poker Pete, called Poke It Podcast, on iTunes etc. You can opt in at their website to be reminded about new shows.   Who Or What's Impressed Nicola has enjoyed watching The Fall again with Gillian Anderson and Jamie Dornan. And Judith shares an article which came to her attention via Alice. It’s about how we have all responded to the pandemic, initially with a surge capacity, but darker emotions have followed. It offers some wisdom and tips for how to pull yourself out of despair and live your life. *** Join our free Facebook Group for Own It! the Podcast and talk back to us about what you hear in the show. Support our podcast on Patreon with a few monthly dollars to help defray our costs - thank you!   Thanks for listening! To share your thoughts: Leave a rating and review via your podcast app Ask a question in our Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/OwnItThePodcast/  To help the show: Subscribe via  Radio Public,  iTunes, Stitcher,  YouTube, TuneIn, Libsyn https://ownitthepodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/download-pdf-300.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="50" /> Please share on Twitter, Facebook or whatever social media platform you love to use and tag us if you can - we love to read your comments! Website: https://OwnItThePodcast.com

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Nicola tackles Brenda’s challenge about engaging teenagers and young people to develop and business and digital skills...   In The Show Nicola and Judith have received a rave review from a listener in the Caribbean and Brenda supplies today’s Focus too, about entrepreneurial skills for young people. Phoebe is tackling the last design project chez Cairncross – Irving’s bookshelves – and Judith’s taken up her coloured pencils again for some holiday adult colouring. #entrepreneurs #businessskills #youngpeople #TwinsthenewTrend #JamieFoxx #SamHarris #truth #investments #TheWeek   What's Fuelled Their Fire? Judith loves Brenda’s feedback about the podcast, and Nicola is excited to be helping another client’s podcast be born.   Focus Of The Week - Young Entrepreneurs Nicola tackles Brenda’s challenge about engaging teenagers and young people to develop and business and digital skills, recommending profiling, a few excellent resources in people and books, getting the teams to think about selling either their own products and services or somebody else’s and documenting their journey with video so that they can create a course teaching other schools how to do the same thing in future.   Words Of The Week Judith chooses Truth and Nicola picks Investments.   Project Updates Judith’s Wednesday got away with her and so we didn’t have any progress to report this week, whereas Nicola has recorded the first of a new series of podcasts with Poker Pete which they are calling “Poke It! How Businesses Work”.   Who Or What's Impressed Nicola has enjoyed a Netflix film called Project Power starring Jamie Foxx, and Sam Harris’ podcast called Making Sense. Judith is impressed that TwinsthenewTrend have gone global and their success has been reported in lots of big newspapers even in the business column as they monetise their output with merchandise and Patreon. *** Join our free Facebook Group for Own It! the Podcast and talk back to us about what you hear in the show. Support our podcast on Patreon with a few monthly dollars to help defray our costs - thank you!   Thanks for listening! To share your thoughts: Leave a rating and review via your podcast app Ask a question in our Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/OwnItThePodcast/  To help the show: Subscribe via  Radio Public,  iTunes, Stitcher,  YouTube, TuneIn, Libsyn https://ownitthepodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/download-pdf-300.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="50" /> Please share on Twitter, Facebook or whatever social media platform you love to use and tag us if you can - we love to read your comments! Website: https://OwnItThePodcast.com

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Sarah Johnston says: ““Being brave. Getting in your own way by being scared to be out there! Twitter / other platforms can be hostile, lots of people following to unfollow - tactics and approaches that make me want to go more into myself..."   In The Show Nicola and Judith discuss a question from a listener about being brave, especially on social media platforms which can feel hostile. Nicola and her family have enjoyed a family BBQ at her Dad’s to celebrate her niece’s birthday and given that everyone was on furlough, they could do it on a Tuesday lunchtime. Judith has struggled to keep both her visiting cat and the garden alive during ferocious heat. She was only successful with one it appears, but the right one. #brave #heatwave #maths #fans #RobertBreedlove #5DayChallenge #assets #investments #PompPodcast   What's Fuelled Their Fire? Nicola and her VA are back in the swing of creating the v-zine with a week in hand, and Judith’s enjoyed a wonderful exchange with a client about how her partner has worked out how good he is at maths and how to enjoy it again after a dreadful experience at school.   Focus Of The Week - Being Brave in Business Sarah Johnston says: ““Being brave. Getting in your own way by being scared to be out there! Twitter / other platforms can be hostile, lots of people following to unfollow - tactics and approaches that make me want to go more into myself. I used to always think of myself as an extrovert but having my daughter with additional support needs has rocked all the ground beneath me.” N&J; explore to what extent they feel we need to be brave in business and what has happened to make them so.   Words Of The Week Judith chooses Maths and Nicola picks Fans.   Project Updates Judith rebelled in the heat against moving her project forward this week, too hot to sit at her desk, and Nicola is getting organised for her next 5-Day Challenge by getting all her ducks in a neat and tidy row.   Who Or What's Impressed Judith was proud that the maths client and partner spotted the error of their ways and got back on track on their property project, guided by the maths, and Nicola recommends Robert Breedlove on Bitcoin. An Open Letter to Ray Dalio. *** Join our free Facebook Group for Own It! the Podcast and talk back to us about what you hear in the show. Support our podcast on Patreon with a few monthly dollars to help defray our costs - thank you!   Thanks for listening! To share your thoughts: Leave a rating and review via your podcast app Ask a question in our Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/OwnItThePodcast/  To help the show: Subscribe via  Radio Public,  iTunes, Stitcher,  YouTube, TuneIn, Libsyn https://ownitthepodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/download-pdf-300.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="50" /> Please share on Twitter, Facebook or whatever social media platform you love to use and tag us if you can - we love to read your comments! Website: https://OwnItThePodcast.com

Own It! 288 | Being Brave in Business

Sea Painter Jo Payne invites Judith and Nicola to talk about the importance of self-care. Jo describes herself as “now religiously fitting in yoga, Pilates, meditation, breathing exercises, walking outside, lying on prickly mats listening to gongs into my daily life, it’s a wonder I have time to actually paint..." In The Show Judith and Nicola answer a question from a listener about investing in time off from work and feeling good about it as opposed to guilty as if you were caught slacking off. Nicola has enjoyed her usual weekly round of tea with Heather, sundowners on the roof with the kids, and poker with Pete but unusually she and Nelson had a row (about a cardboard box!). Judith has had an epic fail on her first attempt in her unexpectedly heroic quest for the perfect compostable coffee pod. #Nespresso #Recycling #HelloFresh #SusanAnnHills #Everywoman #5DayChallenge #TimeOff #SelfCare #HarvardBusinessReview What's Fuelled Their Fire? Nicola is pleased with her decision to try out Hello Fresh, four dinners for £17 and a 50% discount voucher for first timers. Judith has enjoyed a conversation on Facebook about the importance of creative people making time to do nothing, Focus Of The Week - Time Off Is Never Wasted Sea Painter Jo Payne invites Judith and Nicola to talk about the importance of self-care. Jo describes herself as “now religiously fitting in yoga, Pilates, meditation, breathing exercises, walking outside, lying on prickly mats listening to gongs into my daily life, it’s a wonder I have time to actually paint. But if I don’t do these things, it all goes horribly wrong eventually and then I can’t".  Nicola recommends the Harvard Business Review article called How to Forget About Work When You’re Not working. https://www.facebook.com/SeaPainter-1674851056083936/ https://www.seapainterstudio.com/ Words Of The Week Judith chooses Counter-Intuitive and Nicola picks Groundhog Day. Project Updates Judith has completed five eighths of the last module of Jordan Peterson’s self-authoring suite, and Nicola is re-working her way through the content of her own C&L; 5-Day Challenge in preparation for its next outing on 7th September. Who Or What's Impressed Judith has enjoyed a  webinar interview her client Susan Ann Hills gave to Everywoman about her new venture, Zenith Women. And Nicola appreciates Bret and Eric Weinstein for their Unity 2020 Campfire. *** Join our free Facebook Group for Own It! the Podcast and talk back to us about what you hear in the show. Support our podcast on Patreon with a few monthly dollars to help defray our costs - thank you!   Thanks for listening! To share your thoughts: Leave a rating and review via your podcast app Ask a question in our Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/OwnItThePodcast/  To help the show: Subscribe via  Radio Public,  iTunes, Stitcher,  YouTube, TuneIn, Libsyn https://ownitthepodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/download-pdf-300.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="50" /> Please share on Twitter, Facebook or whatever social media platform you love to use and tag us if you can - we love to read your comments! Website: https://OwnItThePodcast.com

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Confident and successful Aussie listener and former listener guest, Kerryn, asked J&N; to address this age-old challenge, and it brought up selling your stuff for the right price, giving away only what you want to and more. In The Show Judith and Nicola answer a question from a listener who considers she still struggles with knowing her worth. Nicola and her sisters have been to visit their Dad who has announced his intention to return to New Zealand; she’s got a new iPhone 11+ Pro and digital pen.  Poker with Pete was replaced this week with a drink and dinner in lieu. Judith tells Nicola the story of an ex who left her £300k in debt in the late eighties – he’s dead now, she’s discovered online. #TheNueCo #GaryVee #iPhone11 #hose #mice #5DayChallenge #KnowingYourWorth #MorningPages #Ancestry What's Fuelled Their Fire? Nicola is planning another Clicks and Leads 5 Day Challenge for 7th September and twelve pieces of content to promote it, following her own playbook. Judith’s done some very valuable coaching calls with writer clients this week and has found a new Morning Pages app instead of 750words.com Focus Of The Week - Knowing Your Worth Confident and successful Aussie listener and former listener guest, Kerryn, asked J&N; to address this age-old challenge, and it brought up selling your stuff for the right price, giving away only what you want to, asking for testimonials and noting what people appreciate about you, quoting for work on a value billing basis and asking for a brief and a budget before accepting work which might turn out not to reflect your true worth. Words Of The Week Judith chooses Hose and Nicola picks Mice. Project Updates Nicola has created a white paper called Survive & Thrive to 2030 and started a WhatsApp Group which she is proposing to migrate to Discord. Judith has completed her third out of the final eight goals in the self-authoring suite Future module and wonders whether she needs to do anymore since #3 seems to reflect her entire future in one. She will because she is a completist and a good girl! Who Or What's Impressed Nicola has responded to a request from Gary Vee in favour of a family member and enjoyed a good warm feeling about it, and Judith is impressed by the combo of her ex’s cousin and Ancestry.com which is how and where she was able to find out everything about his death, and by TheNueCo.com and their products and packaging, specifically their Functional Fragrance. *** Join our free Facebook Group for Own It! the Podcast and talk back to us about what you hear in the show. Support our podcast on Patreon with a few monthly dollars to help defray our costs - thank you!   Thanks for listening! To share your thoughts: Leave a rating and review via your podcast app Ask a question in our Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/OwnItThePodcast/  To help the show: Subscribe via  Radio Public,  iTunes, Stitcher,  YouTube, TuneIn, Libsyn https://ownitthepodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/download-pdf-300.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="50" /> Please share on Twitter, Facebook or whatever social media platform you love to use and tag us if you can - we love to read your comments! Website: https://OwnItThePodcast.com

Own It! 261 | Victim, Rescuer or Persecutor?

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