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"Own the pause" - Dorian Lam
Dorian is the Principal and EVP of Cornerstone Land Abstract, a title insurance company in New York City, with over $10 billion in transactions. A major reason I wanted to talk to Dorian was because of how prominent and successful he is in an industry as fast paced and demanding as real estate. I thought it would make for an interesting case study in how someone with that life style thinks about their value system. I had a sense there was depth/thoughtfulness to his approach, given his passion for promoting physical and mental wellness, as he is also the Founder of the Real Estate Warriors, a networking coalition for individuals who believe in “mindfulness and sweat equity”.
I'd be lying though if I didn't still go into the conversation thinking there was a chance Dorian was going to be this fast talking, money hungry, real estate maverick. Right from the jump however, he made clear how thoughtful, deliberate, and humble he is. I thought his value of "own the pause" was super interesting and relatable for me. Life is so complicated, our minds are influenced by so many different things, and there is never enough time in the day; so embracing the idea of taking pauses and trying to evaluate if you're on the right track seems like an obvious choice. For that reason, we spent a lot of time pressure testing the concept and exploring why it can still be so hard to do, even if it logically makes so much sense.
We also tackled the question of how he balances finding happiness in life, spending time with the people that matter, and running that fast paced real estate business. I found Dorian's approach of being super deliberate about his "mental fitness" (working with a coach to improve it) and time allocation really insightful. As we discussed, being happy can be hard work, but we can't let that discourage us from going after it. Some might believe life should be simple and that happiness should come easily; and if that works for them that is awesome. But for Dorian, and myself, life seems too complicated to take that view.
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Dorian is the Principal and EVP of Cornerstone Land Abstract, a title insurance company in New York City, with over $10 billion in transactions. A major reason I wanted to talk to Dorian was because of how prominent and successful he is in an industry as fast paced and demanding as real estate. I thought it would make for an interesting case study in how someone with that life style thinks about their value system. I had a sense there was depth/thoughtfulness to his approach, given his passion for promoting physical and mental wellness, as he is also the Founder of the Real Estate Warriors, a networking coalition for individuals who believe in “mindfulness and sweat equity”.
I'd be lying though if I didn't still go into the conversation thinking there was a chance Dorian was going to be this fast talking, money hungry, real estate maverick. Right from the jump however, he made clear how thoughtful, deliberate, and humble he is. I thought his value of "own the pause" was super interesting and relatable for me. Life is so complicated, our minds are influenced by so many different things, and there is never enough time in the day; so embracing the idea of taking pauses and trying to evaluate if you're on the right track seems like an obvious choice. For that reason, we spent a lot of time pressure testing the concept and exploring why it can still be so hard to do, even if it logically makes so much sense.
We also tackled the question of how he balances finding happiness in life, spending time with the people that matter, and running that fast paced real estate business. I found Dorian's approach of being super deliberate about his "mental fitness" (working with a coach to improve it) and time allocation really insightful. As we discussed, being happy can be hard work, but we can't let that discourage us from going after it. Some might believe life should be simple and that happiness should come easily; and if that works for them that is awesome. But for Dorian, and myself, life seems too complicated to take that view.