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- 067: Goodbye, for nowParent Driven DevelopmentEpisode 067: Goodbye, for now.1:00 Parent Driven Development reflects on what it’s like being a panelist on the podcast
- Imposter syndrome
- Multiple purposes to be an effective parent
- Expanding perspectives, ideas, and parenting techniques
- Ability to relate with one another
8:40 What we hope to our listeners take away from the podcast- There is no one way to parent
- You’ll continue to grow as a parent
- You are not alone - every parent, kid, family, circumstances are different
13:30 What would we have done differently?- Earlier sponsorship
- Episode format
16:15 Parting words for listeners- Thank you!!
- You’re doing a great job.
17:17 Final genius and fail moments- Chris Sexton’s daughter uses the word arithmetic with her peers, but no one knows the word leading her to question whether her parents played a prank on her.
- Allison calms down her family with deep breathing after her daughter has a potty accident.
- KWu’s 3-year-old son feels super proud after helping shovel the snow, and he helped!
- Chris Arcand finds the perfect snow sled for his son to be towed around in the deep Minnesota snow.
How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
Chris Arcand
Chris SextonKWuAllison29 min - 066: Finding a new job during the pandemicParent Driven Development66: Finding a new job during the pandemic.Welcome, Jean Hsu!
Jean Hsu is a writer, coach, and software engineer turned leadership coach after working for a decade in Silicon Valley. She is the VP of engineering at Range Labs and Co-founder of Co Leadership, which focuses on filling the gaps in leadership development in the tech industry. Jean doesn’t miss writing code, but she does miss deleting it.
0:53 Finding a new job during the pandemic- Desire strikes for leadership
- The hiring process
5:20 How did the pandemic change your thought process- Intentionality of specific desires - management, leadership, flexibility
- Enjoying the journey rather than letting comparison or stress take over
7:30 What would Jean do differently now?- Finding ways to lean into async communication with a remote team in different time zones, while keeping the team engaged and connected with each other
- Hybrid mix of in-person and remote is the future for companies
13:13 Pre-pandemic commute tales- Feels like a different lifetime
15:40 New expectations for Range during the pandemic- Getting rid of the 9-5; windowed work with colored labels
- Core hours for team meetings
- Setting boundaries
19:40 Genius and fail moments- KWu closed her son’s fingers between a door hinge… #fail
- Allison’s daughter turns 3 and shines at her yearly doctor's appointment. #genius
- Jean downloaded TikTok and discovered the best parenting hack to tell your kids to do a task, rather than ask. #genius
- Chris brings back his daughter's love of Star Wars. #genius
How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
Allison
KWuChris SextonSpecial Guest: Jean Hsu.
30 min - 065: Teaching Programming to KidsParent Driven DevelopmentEpisode 065: Teaching Programming to Kids with FelienneWelcome, Felienne!
Felienne is the creator of the Hedy programming language, and was one of the founders of the Joy of Coding conference. Since 2016, she has been a host at SE radio, one of the most popular software engineering podcasts on the web. Felienne is the author of “The Programmer’s Brain” a book that helps programmers understand how their brains work and how to use it more effectively. In 2021, Felienne was awarded the Dutch Prize for ICT research.
0:50 How does Felienne become interested in programming education?- Research field towards programming education
- Love of kids
3:33 Methods and strategies to help kids understand- Relevant for professionals
- Full concentration disables full memory, so she lowers the cognitive load
- After time, memory starts to build and functioning increases
6:02 Maximizing different learning styles in kids- Learn their preferences
- Challenges their default learning style
9:57 Felienne’s new book- How people learn programming
- The more information you know about your brain can help you understand how you learn
11:40 Interesting findings- Cognitive load
14:00 Top tips related to programming- Refactoring for personal comprehension
- Let go of one golden standard that code is suppose to look like
17:29 Specific differences between professionals and kids- Motivation
- Concrete vs open ended expression
20:50 - 1 take away- Take the kids hands, and guide them
22:20- Allison and her husband score a few days each solo as they transition back into their home #genius
- Felienne’s students fuss over the different symbols of division in coding #fail
How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
Allison
Special Guest: Felienne Hermans.
28 min - 064: Moving and RenovatingParent Driven DevelopmentEpisode 064: Moving and Renovating0:30 Moving and renting realities
- KWu moves
- Allison’s home renovations
- Preparation before the kids
4:30 Toys- Ethical parenting of getting rid of toys
- Hiding and cleaning out old toys from the kids (out of sight out of mind)
10:05 Establishing new house rules- Setting realistic expectations on new floors, new rooms, new finishes
- Furniture socks
- Furniture caster cups
- Respect and Take Care of Things
- Learning to get along book series
18:35 Caution police in new house- Acceptance is key
- Roommates with no impulse control.. your kids. ;)
22:40 Genius and fail moments- KWu’s kids got into some old and slimy carrots meant for the compost.. But at least they’re eating vegetables!
- Allison’s son gets shut down from her parenting synchronicity with her husband.
How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
KWu
Allison28 min - 063: Fear in ParentingParent Driven DevelopmentEpisode 063: Fear in Parenting0:40 Fear and stress of parenting
- From independent… to having dependents
- Trends of becoming more conservative once a parent
2:50 Decision making process- High alert, more burden than non-parents
- Different decisions and problems at different stages of the kids
- Background buzz of constant anxiety
6:40 Different stresses- Physical dangers for smaller kids, choking hazards
- Trying to avoid helicopter parenting
- Screen interest, programming, and patience
10:55 Big anxieties- Screen time !! Constant worry and stress for modern parents with kids
- Augmenting reality through screens - stress for middle school aged parents
- How to foster new sibling relationships
Siblings Without Rivalry - book- How to avoid middle child syndrome with three kids, carve out alone time with each child
- Feeling guilty to tell kids to play by themselves.. But it’s also important to learn
21:35 Genius and fail moments from the last week- KWu moves to a new house and her son is waking every night from terrors or feeling too cold as she’s been keeping the thermostat down real low. #fail
- Jess’s son is a pretty adventurous eater and recently discovered balsamic vinegar which is now a new favorite! #genius
- Chris makes biscuits and conjures a family night which turned into a great family time. #genius
How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
Jess
Chris SKWu29 min - 062: 3-Year Anniversary - Episode HighlightsParent Driven Development062: Celebrating Our Favorite Episodes from the past 3 Years!Episode Highlights
KWu, Chris, Josh, and Allison reflect on the past 3-years of podcasting. They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments!
1:30 Episode 43 - Managing parents on your team with Nick Means3:10 Episode 19 - Being Adults, Live from Ruby Conf with Jonan Scheffler7:25 Episode 11 - Being a Trans-Parent with Jess Szmajda10:35 Episode 26 - Breastfeeding with Allison, Mandy, and KWu13:06 Episode 13 - Babies at Work Program with Leah Silber14:38 Episode 39 - Parenting Roles and Gender Equity with Richard Schneeman15:50 Episode 34 - Extracurricular Activities with Barrett Clark18:18 Episode 20 - Fertility Struggles with Adam Cuppy19:55 Josh's rememberable genuis and fail moments22:40 Genius / fails- Allison questions herself as a parent due to a Hanukkah gift gone wrong
- Josh bans Elf on Shelf and his daughter starts to question Santa Claus
- Chris nails the Christmas lights on his son’s bed.. But then begins to question everything when he begins to struggle getting his son out of the car to go to school.
- KWu and her son enjoy a fresh snowfall!
How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
KWu
JoshAllisonChris S38 min - 061: DHH - Internet Famous with KidsEp 61 : DHH on being Internet Famous with Kids1:48 Welcome, DHH
David is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder & CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man.
2:50 Security concerns- Social Media
- COVID times
- Parenting boundaries
13:45 Privacy- Picture surplus
- Authenticity
16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web- The highlight parenting reel
- Avoid the humble brag as a parent
- Internet jousts
DHH recommended books:- The Myth of the Spoiled Child - Alfie Kohn
- Punished by Rewards - Alfie Kohn
* The Self-Driven Child - Ned Johnson26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids- Capitalism
- Against artificial constraints placed on by parents
- A life not centered around materialism
The Road To Wigan Pier - George Orwell
38:38 Genius / Fails- Arit makes a crib boundary with a creative new upcycle
- KWu wrestles with a photo book for her kids
- Chris fails on fail this week
- DHH is off by an hour as his kids come home right as this podcast starts
- Allison’s daughter challenges her patience during bed time
How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
Allison
Chris SAritKWuSpecial Guest: David Heinemeier Hansson .
Sponsored By:
- Honeybadger: So Let’s face it, your code is going to have errors, even code written by an amazing developer such as yourself. When errors happen, it's nice to know that Honeybadger has your back.
Honeybadger makes you a DevOps hero by combining error monitoring, uptime monitoring and check-in monitoring into a single, easy to use platform.Honeybadger sends you alerts real time with all the context needed to see what's causing the error and where it's hiding so you can quickly fix it and get on with your day.The included uptime and cron monitoring also lets you know when your external services are having issues or your background jobs go missing or silently fail.Go to Honeybadger.io and discover how Starr, Josh, and Ben created a 100% bootstrapped monitoring solution.Why is this important? Self funding means they only answer to you, the developer, rather than a venture capital overlord.Visit Honeybadger.io today and mention this podcast to get started for 30% off48 min - 60: Must HavesEp 60 : Must Haves for ParentsFacebook Rabbit Holes for Parents + Kid Toys
- Subculture for wooden toys
- The Nugget couch
- Parents become hyper focused on specific products
- Careful what your Google
- How to choose your Facebook groups
- The Social Dilemma
- Social media groups are "bad"/addicting, but also useful..
- Geo-fencing - creating fairer ways for international purchases
- The lottery
- Lucie's List
- Pandemic toys for the New Year
- More pressure for parents
- Moms targeted mostly in the Facebook Groups
- Marketing kids toys with trigger language: “Investment piece”
Parents: You are doing a GREAT job.Genius / FailsKWu tries to rotate out toys and clothes for her son, but things aren’t going well.
Allison smoothly close out virtual Ruby conf while managing multiple interruptions from her kidsHow can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
KWu
Allison29 min - 059: Hiring and InterviewingParent Driven Development059: Hiring and Interviewing
Jess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it's important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible.
01:45 Hiring and Interviewing in tech- Jess writes a book and gets a new job
- How to reduce bias in interviewing process
03:33 Tech interviews hinder parents and caregivers- Take-home vs pairing session
- Hiring managers should set up the interviewee in the best possible scenario
- 6-8 hours for a take-home test, unrealistic for caregivings
09:50 How to access talent- Everyway is flawed
- Take-home - kids constantly interrupting
- Paired - many engineers are introverted
- Solutions: Short at-home mixed with pairing, or problem prompt
13:30 Bias- How to reduce: rubric for every round, being aware of the bias
- Allison asks about parental leave, and feels the tone shift drastically
- Legal protection, but a lot of fuzzy areas
16:45 Good signs for parents interviewing- Its a non-event when a child pops into the room while on a call
- Companies reward evenly
- Talk with team members outside the interviewing committee
- Talk with someone you relate to on the team, mom, trans, BIPOC, etc
20:30 Bad signs for parents interviewing- The entire tone changes after asking about parental leave..
- Judgmental, leadership team of non-parents
22:00 Handing flexibility- Ask about parental leave, primary and secondary leave
- Be honest with needs
- Workplace flexibility
28:37 Genius / fail- Jess deals with her son having accidents constantly
- Chris and his kids play board games and jam out to all songs names satellite
- Allison’s daughter sparks chaos when she leaves her room after bedtime… but soon learns to stay in her room to tire herself out.
How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
Jess
AllisonChris SSponsored By:
- The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!
The Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!Each month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!These monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!And the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!The work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!Let The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!Head over right now to:thepreschoolbox.comand use code "PARENTDRIVEN" to get $5 off your first preschool box!Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN38 min - 058: Co-ParentingParent Driven DevelopmentEpisode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon HaysWelcome Brandon!
Brandon Hays is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college.
02:40 Brandon's co-parenting- Starting with traditional gender roles
- Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work..
- The invisible work becomes more visible
- Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids
06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic- Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school
- Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic
- The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down
- Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help
- Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before
10:53 Working out responsibility between partners- Clear contracts
- Splitting up tasks and making them known to each partner
- Alternating cooking dinner and clean up
- Family clean day
- Creating activities for kids, even after a long day
- Check in with your partner, how are you feeling burden?
14:05 Recognize your partner's strengths- Being comfortable with how each partner co-parents
- Recognition of each partner
- Optimize each parenting style and continue to check in
- Asking and taking the self-care when it is needed
17:30 Working together19:10 How has Covid refocused things?!- Strengthened the team mentality
- Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic
- Constant change, the on-call parent
24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values?27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection28:35 Genius / fail moments- Allison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt…
- Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win!
- Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius
- Jess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius
- KWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius
- Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat
How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
Chris Arcand
JessAritAllisonKWuSpecial Guest: Brandon Hays.
Sponsored By:
- The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!
The Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!Each month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!These monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!And the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!The work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!Let The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!Head over right now to:thepreschoolbox.comand use code "PARENTDRIVEN" to get $5 off your first preschool box!Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN41 min
About Parent Driven Development
From the publisher's feed
Turns out children arrive with no manual. There's no coherent online tutorial. Between staying up to date with emerging technologies and balancing work and home life in an industry that often requires…
un-timeable bug fixes, on call schedules, and more, working parents are balancing a lot. Parents are also exploring additional technical issues like "screen time" or internet privacy, coming at these issues from a different perspective as technologists ourselves. We cover all of these topics and more using a panel of parents coming from diverse perspectives and a variety of technological backgrounds. We'll shine light onto these issues and provide a valuable food for thought for these folks. Want to ask a question that the panelists can discuss in an episode? Email us at [email protected]. And if you're loving the podcast and want to support us, please visit our Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)!