True success in life comes not from what you do but from who you know and how well you know them. Especially in parenting, the key is to focus on connection over experience for our children, on relationship over activity. This is what Jesus meant in Luke 10:38-42 when He praised Mary, who chose the good portion by simply sitting at His feet in fellowship and relationship. If our parenting primarily sought to influence our children’s key relationships (with God, their parents, and their friends), seeking to train them to handle those relationships well, then we would feel much more successful as parents.