Daniel is parenting his 11-month-old son Ezra while wrestling with hyper-vigilance rooted in a childhood with an alcoholic father. He knows some vigilance is responsible parenting, but much of it is his nervous system running old survival scripts. In this episode, we explore how to distinguish between appropriate caution and trauma echoes, why ADHD amplifies the cognitive cost of constant monitoring, and practical frameworks like grounding with reality testing, scheduled worry time, and creating "yes spaces" that give parents permission to relax. This isn't just a parenting question — it's a nervous-system question disguised as one.