This is part one of a two-part series exploring the intersection of matrescence and grief. In this first episode, Jessica Thomas and systemic therapist Jackie Turner explore the concept of matrescence, the transformative journey of becoming a mother, and the many aspects of grief that surface. They discuss the emotional and psychological transitions involved, highlighting the importance of recognizing matrescence as a profound developmental transition rather than just a medical or physical event. A significant aspect of matrescence is the experience of grief, often seen as an unexpected companion in the journey of motherhood. This discussion highlights how grief can manifest in various forms: the loss of a previous identity, the surfacing of intergenerational wounds, and the challenges of adapting to new roles and ways of perceiving, and so much more.

Keywords

matrescence, motherhood, emotional transition,psychological transition, developmental transition

Takeaways

• Matrescence is a transformative journey that includes identity changes.
• Grief is a natural part of the transition into motherhood.
• Normalizing grief can foster connection and resilience.
• Small losses during matrescence often go unacknowledged.
• Intergenerational trauma can surface during matrescence.
• Anxiety and attachment issues are common in new parents.
• Psychoeducation is crucial for supporting new parents.
• Personal storytelling helps normalize experiences of grief.
• Contradictory emotions are a normal part of parenthood.
• Interdisciplinary support can enhance the experience of matrescence.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Matrescence and Grief

02:42 Understanding Matrescence: A Transformative Journey

05:15 The Role of Grief in Motherhood

07:54 Acknowledging Losses During Matrescence

10:42 Reprocessing Grief Through Parenthood

13:43 Navigating Mortality and Anxiety in Pregnancy

21:13 Intergenerational Influences on Grief

24:37 Cultural Narratives and Matrescence

25:45 Psychoeducation and Support in Matrescence

28:03 Reflective Practices and Identity Crisis

33:15 The Power of Personal Storytelling

35:27 Interdisciplinary Approaches to Matrescence

About Jackie Turner, MFT

Jackie is a relational therapist who works with women navigating matrescence—the profound transition into motherhood. She’s also a mom to a daughter, a writer, and a nature lover, with a spiritual lens that shapes both her life and her work. Her website is JackieTurnerTherapy.com

Resources

Matrescence.com

Pregnancy resculpts women's brains for at least 2 years

Khora Lab

Books

Motherhood: Facing and Finding Yourself by Lisa Marchiano

Women as Mothers by Sheila Kitzinger

Matrescence by Lucy Jones

Additional Podcasts

This Jungian Life: Motherhood as Depth Initiation