Letters to my kids: A suicide survivor's lessons and advice for life

Episode 31 - Part 5 : Life - surviving and struggling to survive

10.25.2018 - By Letters to my kids: A 2-time suicide survivor and advocate for realistic optimism.Play

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Episode 31 - Part 5 : Life - surviving and struggling to survive

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- If you think you’re wandering alone trying to raise your voice so everybody can hear you roaring, you’re wrong. In fact, you are surrounded with people who fight bloody combats in their minds between success and failure. Whoever told you that life and success comes easy is either pleasing you, or talk nonsense. Life is a balance of good and bad times along with picking out the best lessons out of both experiences. 

- You are determined more than ever.

Determination is the first thing you do conscious that will take you directly to your wishes. Determination means that you already have a clear goal and willing to sacrifice everything to grab that goal with both hands. Emotions will rush over you to go back to the old habits. 

- You feel like breaking down.

At the exact moment when you feel like the world falls down on you is the moment you have to decide two things: go down with it, or elevate stronger than ever. They remind us to see beauty behind the thorns on the way. Life is one big test where we have to see through all perspectives. The price we have to pay not to blur our dreams when encountering the weight of the world on our shoulders.

- You firmly want to give up.

Following the sign of the hard struggle when you feel like breaking down, the mental state to give up will invade your mind. That’s really a sign that you are doing the right thing. I would state it as finding comfort in the discomfort.

"It is not necessary to change. Survival is not mandatory. Learning is not compulsory... neither is survival." W. Edwards Deming

- You choose to avoid night-out over work.

Everyone needs to hang out from time to time. We exchange thoughts, enjoy the time with our biddies, and have a fun time. But sometimes night-out needs to be avoided if we have crucial work to finish that might take us closer to the vision. Free time needs to be earned thought previous successful days of work. Believe me; the best memories are made when you have nothing left behind to occupy your mind.

- You are less with wrong people.

In those times you reveal your true friends and people who care about you the most. While being lonely may seem like a dark period and something might be wrong with us, that period of our life is the enlightening. You are left alone with your experience to form your future.

"It has yet to be proven that intelligence has any survival value." -Arthur C. Clarke

- You are occupied with your success.

Emotions play with our mind when we determine to succeed in life. As I previously mentioned, we all have bad habits that have to be removed. That’s not easy at all. Success should make us happy. It shouldn’t mean that “success” is endless money and one mile houses.

"Every day I run scared. That's the only way I can stay ahead ." John H Johnson

- You exchange life for something only you see.

First off, you sacrifice life with everything you do daily. You literally give up (something important and most valued) for the sake of your considerations. You exchange life for the picture in your head of rightfulness. And no, you are not giving up life for nothing. You switch every second and hand out struggle to your vision. 

"When you're in the battlefield, survival is all there is. Death is the only great emotion." Samuel Fuller

- You know your goal as soon as you wake up.

Waking up may be the hardest part of the day for some people, but not for those who have clear concise vision (of at least) how they should spend their day to be closer to a better tomorrow. Every one of us can easily create positive and creative way of thinking in a short period of time. Imagine life differently. The mind can expand as long as you’re willing to.

"The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power

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