To work through the 12 Steps with Dr. Doug Weiss in this series, purchase Beyond Love here: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/beyond-love-guide/

Dr. Doug Weiss, national psychologist and author, has helped thousands of couples deal with sex addiction for over 30 years. Regardless of whether or not the sex addict works towards recovery, it is important that the partner receives healing. It may not be easy, but it is possible. However, it starts with doing the 12 Steps program.

The 12 Steps program has been around for several decades and has helped people in many different situations other than alcohol addiction. As the partner, you may not think you need to do this since you didn’t do anything wrong. However, you have gone through pain and even trauma. It’s best to be in a process to assist you on the road towards restoration. It’s the same as if you had been in a car crash. You may not have been the one driving, but you still have damage and need to recover from it. Whether you choose to commit to it or not, the choice is yours. Those who work on their own recovery process do significantly better than who put it off, don't do it, or stay focused on the guy.

With Step Three, it’s about having made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understand Him. It can take time to do so because it's a process (something you think about and work on). As a partner of a sex addict, you have a lot of decisions to make. The ability to make decisions is your will, the most powerful thing you possess. You can use your will in a good way to make the decision to turn your will (choices) and life (very self) over to the care of God.

You’ve been hurt by a person, someone who betrayed you. God did not betray you. He loves you, He cares for you, He cries with you. While He can do anything, He respects the free will He gave to you and won’t control you or others. The bad things that happened to you was due to what others did, not Him. Come to the nature and care of a loving God and father.

Some of you may know God or know about Him. It could also be that God is a foreign concept that’s vast and unknown. However, you can choose to be in a relationship with Him, to be all in with Him, to trust His voice and agree with HIm. You’re not alone. If you come to Him, He will help you heal.

We have many different resources available to you from DVDs and books to support groups and therapists.

For the Partners Book: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-healing-book/

For the Partners of Sex Addicts Facebook group for women, go to:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/

For the Partners of Sex Addicts Facebook group for men, go to:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/supportgroupSAIA/

For more information on Partner Betrayal Trauma®, go to https://partnerbetrayaltrauma.org/

For the book, Partner Betrayal Trauma, visit:

https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/

For information on marriage counseling and intensives, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/counseling/

For a full list of Dr. Doug’s products, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/store/

Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.

You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, https://www.drdougweiss.com/ or on his Facebook https://www.facebook.com/drdougweiss/

by phone at 719-278-3708 or through email at [email protected]