In today's episode, Bea and I have a really juicy and sometimes passionate and heated discussion on how the trauma that we have gone through in the past can influence or has influenced the future relationship choices we have made. We explore how often people attract to them or choose similar types of people that hurt them in the past because that comfortable discomfort is familiar. Meanwhile healthy safe connections can be seen as boring because they don't activate our nervous system in the same way. We share that to attract different experiences we have to release the pain, get the lessons, recognize the role we are playing in our suffering and make conscious choices away from what is unhealthy for us 

Bea and I uncover how if our past pain is left unprocessed or unresolved we either attract in similar connections, retraumatizing ourselves, or alternatively we choose people that are not quite what we want in order to keep ourselves safe and break our own hearts...or perceived safe, because in fact denying ourselves what we really desire in order to not get hurt actually keeps us looping in the pain we are trying to avoid. We also discuss our own journey's with coming back into a healthy relationship with ourselves and treating ourselves how we want another to treat us <3

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Intro/Outro music "Blue Sky" from TELL YOUR STORY by Ikson
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zc4ET9viVQ0