Am so delighted to welcome the Peace Begins at Home Summit Director, Gina Miltiadou, for Episode 81 of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast. Access full transcripts, links, show notes, and other resources at http://thefeelbettereverydaypodcast.com

The inaugural Peace Begins at Home Summit will take place on Wednesday, 29th October 2025 (and you can listen to the recordings for 30 days so don’t worry if you can’t make that day).

At a time of rising authoritarianism, climate crisis, and lost hope, the Summit combines lived testimony, research, and practical solutions to reclaim a culture of partnership.

Produced by the Center for Partnership Systems (CPS) and inspired by cultural historian Dr. Riane Eisler’s Partnership vs. Domination framework, the Summit reframes peace not as a distant ideal but as a systems challenge that begins where we live, love, and raise each other: In the home. Confirmed speakers include 26 leaders from 17 countries, among them:

• Dr. Riane Eisler – Holocaust survivor, cultural historian, systems scientist, and author of The Chalice and the Blade
• Ambassador Anwarul K. Chowdhury – Former UN Under-Secretary-General and champion of the culture of peace
• Dr. Richard Davidson – World-renowned neuroscientist and TIME 100 honoree
• Ela Gandhi – Global peace activist, women’s rights advocate and granddaughter of Mahatma Gandhi
• Gary Barker & Jackson Katz – International pioneers in reshaping masculinity
• Angela Sterritt – Award-winning investigative journalist and author, serving as MC

Find out more and book at www.peacebeginsathomesummit.org

CHAPTERS

0:00 Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the state of the world

2:08 Introducing Gina Miltiadou and the Peace Begins at Home Summit

2:53 The ripple effect of early trauma

4:10 Self-care when you’re near the finish line

5:41 Purpose as a form of self-care

7:07 Interconnectedness and hope

8:15 Dr. Riane Eisler’s domination to partnership framework

15:19 Peace begins at home

17:30 Turning pain into purpose

20:05 Stories of healing and collective care

25:16 Peace is personal

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CHAPTERS

0:00 Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the state of the world

2:08 Introducing Gina Miltiadou and the Peace Begins at Home Summit

2:53 The ripple effect of early trauma

4:10 Self-care when you’re near the finish line

5:41 Purpose as a form of self-care 7:07 Interconnectedness and hope

8:15 Dr. Riane Eisler’s domination to partnership framework

15:19 Peace begins at home

17:30 Turning pain into purpose

20:05 Stories of healing and collective care

25:16 Peace is personal

DISCLAIMER

The content I share is not a replacement for one to one trauma therapy (etc). While you can do an enormous amount to support yourself, please always seek appropriate medical advice.

FULL TRANSCRIPT

Do you ever feel overwhelmed and despairing at repeated patterns of horror endlessly perpetuated by humans, as if we never learn from the past? This episode’s for you. Feel Better Every Day. No, seriously.

It’s easy to feel helpless and hopeless, to go into that dorsal vagal “Freeze!” response. To feel completely overwhelmed, disconnected. Today’s guest has some hope and inspiration for you. Episode 81, I’m delighted to welcome you to Gina Miltiadou. She is the director of the Peace Begins at Home Summit. I’ll be sharing our interview together.

Welcome! You’re listening to the Feel Better Every Day Podcast (in spite of that gloomy intro). And I hope that you will find it helpful. Each Tuesday, I share new episodes, and they’re designed to help you work with the Feel. Love. Heal. framework I developed.

Today’s episode is very much in that Heal part, the collective care element, the co-regulation, the systemic elements of we’re all connected. The better we take care of ourselves and each other, the better for everyone.

You can find out more about the book, the podcast and older episodes and other free resources around trauma, ADHD, anxiety, sleep, menopause, being a solopreneur, all sorts of things, as well as ways in which we might work together, upcoming events, all of that at selfcarecoaching.net or the feelbettereverydaypodcast.com.

For now, welcome, welcome, welcome to this special episode, which I hope will inspire you.

So welcome, Gina. Thank you so much for joining me. And do you want to say a little bit about the summit and what you’re doing?

Yes, of course. Well, firstly, thank you so much for having me. It’s wonderful to have a chance to talk about this. But yes, I’m organising a global summit, which is happening on the 29th of October. And it is inspired by Dr. Riane Eisler’s work, which I’m sure we’ll talk more about later.

But what it is doing, it’s gathering 26 speakers from 17 different countries around the world. And essentially, we’re examining how early trauma or care experienced in the home ripples out into society and all the systems that we live in. So that’s my current project.

I love that so much. My membership is called the Sole to Soul Circle, like the soles of the feet to the soul. But it used to be called Personal Peace, because it was very much about the more where, OK, whether we’ve been raised in that caring environment, or whether we’ve healed that trauma, that then ripples out the intergenerational healing, all of it.

That’s exactly it. Wonderful.

I’m going to include a link in the show notes, but your summit takes place, this is going to go out on Tuesday.

It’s going to be tomorrow, as far as people watching are concerned.

It’s on the 29th of October. It’s the week after next.

I got the dates wrong! I was like, quick, quick, I really want to include it. Oh, that’s okay.

Yeah. Okay, so that’s fantastic. People have even more time to sort it out.

Exactly, exactly. And the best place to register is just go to peacebeginsathomesummit.org and they can register online.

So brilliant. And there’ll be a link in the show notes. Great. So you are very, very busy at the moment. Really appreciate you taking the time to talk to me. How is your self care in terms of the feel part of my Feel. Love. Heal. framework? The kind of active self-care? What are your essential daily practices that you rely on or don’t have time for at the moment?

Oh, goodness. Eve, I do not want to lie to you. I am 10 days away from the summit so my self-care is kind of non-existent at the moment. It is about just getting to the finish line at the moment. This has been a project that has been in the making for the whole year. And it’s wonderful that we’re kind of reaching the finish line. But you know, part of it is, just being gentle with myself and giving myself permission to almost not self-care, not guilting myself into, oh my God, I really should be minding myself better. I know that, but I actually just do not have the time. So I think it’s also just loving myself enough to kind of go, you know what, that’s okay. This is a season. It’s 10 days to go. You’re not getting as much sleep as you need. You’re not eating as well as you can, but that’s what needs to happen right now.

So it’s the odd thing. I think getting outside and getting fresh air when I can has made a massive difference. Even just the little things like taking the dog for a walk or just watching a really stupid, mindless piece on Netflix has really helped as well.

And I’m not going to lie, you know, chocolate and wine has also helped.

Excellent. And I’m also thinking what you’re doing because it’s so meaningful. It’s different to if you were in a job you hated and the grind and like this just, we’ve only just met, but the purpose is a part of self care and like giving yourself grace.

That’s gorgeous. Exactly.

Exactly. And I think that’s the thing is because this has been so purpose led, it’s actually been easy to do. I mean, even though I really am exhausted, but I’m also so psyched about it and I’m so buzzed about it.

And I think, you know, just meeting all of the different speakers and hearing their stories and just the, I suppose, the feeling that this is really going to make a difference at a time when people need it so, so badly. People want hope so badly is enough to keep me going because it’s just bigger than all of us. Yeah.

That leads us beautifully into the Love part of the Feel. Love. Heal. framework I developed. Love. You don’t need to do a thing. You are already part of nature, part of the divine. You don’t need to be endlessly improving yourself and giving yourself grace, but also that sense of being part of something bigger, looking up at a mountain or being in the ocean or whatever it might be. And I wondered, would you like to say anything about some of the speakers?

Yes, absolutely. And I think you’ve touched on something so beautiful and important there, the fact that we are all interconnected. And I think if people just realised that they would feel less lonely, they would feel that they could make a difference that every tiny little action does ripple out into the world. Because often we feel so helpless, you know, and we’re not, you know, even a tiny little thing can, can ripple out.

I think, you know, one of the, one of the key foundations of the summit was, so with Dr. Riane Eisler, she’s an incredible woman. She is a Holocaust survivor. She’s 94, which is incredible and still doing keynotes, which just blows my mind. If I could be a fraction as spry as she is, but you know, even when I’m 80, I’d be doing well.

But her whole thing, so she’s a systems scientist, she’s a cultural historian. She has consulted to the WHO, the UN, the World Economic Forum, etc. And she has spent her life developing this Domination to Partnership framework. And one of the things that she really wanted to do (I sit on her board as well), at the end of last year, she said, “Look, you know, it’s no surprise I’m running out of time here. I really want kind of like a last hurrah. And one of the things is, I want to connect the dots. I want to help people connect the dots between that early childhood kind of domination and what we’re seeing in the world today.”

I suppose that speaks to that interconnectedness as well, and just helping people realise that they are part of something bigger. All of the speakers have been, you know, I’ve curated the program very, very carefully and very consciously in terms of what are all of the systems that that early kind of childhood experience ripples out into. It’s everything. It’s from, you know, economy, economics, to story and narrative, to gender relations, to how we treat our children, to all of that.

So I’ve chosen experts in all of those fields from around the world to speak to that interconnectedness, to joining those dots in the areas of expertise. So I hope that answers your question.

And I saw Richard Davidson is on. Oh, he’s amazing. I remember studying him as part of my trauma-informed yoga therapy training years ago. So I can’t wait to see that one. But all of them sound brilliant. And I’m also struck as you’re talking, I remember years and years ago reading Gloria Steinem’s Revolution from Within. Yes. She talked about a Holocaust survivor who was then guarding a Nazi prisoner. And he was filled with hate, because of what the Nazis had done. And after a few days of guarding, watching this man who had been part of such atrocities, this man asked if he could go to the toilet.

And the Holocaust survivor realised that he had been so disconnected from his body, from childhood, from like toilet training techniques that were popular at that time. And that had helped enable the rise of fascism. It wasn’t just Hitler. It wasn’t just one person. And thinking about what’s happening in the world at the moment and how we know better, we’ve seen this before. And yet, children, babies still being dominated, like you say, like rather than nurtured, cared, respected.

You have hit the nail on the head. And that is the entire thing that this is about. It is about that, you know, when a child. I’ll actually preface it by saying that two out of three children in the world experience violence in their life. Two out of three.

Most of my practice is with survivors. But I only work with adult survivors. Only people who have survived childhoods I work with.

But the point is, right, so when a child, so bearing that statistic in mind, so when a child learns domination or sees domination in their home, they learn very early and powerful lessons about how to control others around them. Yeah. And now this is, you know, that doesn’t happen to all survivors of trauma. Of course, you know, they don’t, it’s not automatic that everybody goes into dysfunction, but you know, a lot of people then struggle with, “OK, how do I control what is around me?” And what they’ve been taught in the early foundational years is that you need domination to control that.

And that ripples out into everything. To the way that people vote. That’s why we see the rise of authoritarianism as we do to our nature being in peril, because it is man’s domination over nature that has put us in the situation we’re in. That early domination, you know, you cannot underestimate that that is the most foundational lesson that a child can learn. That is the ultimate answer to peace. Yeah. You know, because peace isn’t just the absence of war. No. It’s not the period in between wars. You know, it is our natural default position, but we’ve almost lost our birthright to peace.

Absolutely. It’s like with the Polyvagal Informed approach, I work a lot with Polyvagal Theory. I use the cats, the rescue cats to illustrate it for people to make it more accessible [selfcarecoaching.net/feline]. But you’ve got the ventral vagal is the most recent, the highest part of the vagus, the, I call it “Purr!”, when you feel safe, it’s that science of safety and connection. So you’re able, there’s that kind of both and mindset. Yes. Both and, yeah, rather than either or. And you’re kind of co-regulating. It’s the collective care, the collaboration, the creativity, the play, the abundance, the all good things. And that is our natural state. That’s what we were wired for.

But then so much of modern life puts us into, I call it “Hiss!”, but like sympathetic survival, that disconnection, that fear-based othering people, or dorsal vagal, the “Freeze”, the collapse, overwhelm. The, “What’s the point? Can’t do anything.” But I keep thinking like if every baby, if every child, if every adult on the planet was safe, welcome and loved, they would be able to thrive. All the problems of the world could be solved by nurturing and nourishing and ensuring safety and shelter and water and love. And it has to start in the home.

Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. I totally agree with you. And the thing is so much of it is about denial, you know, for babies and children to survive their childhoods that are traumatic.

They have to deny that this is happening to them by people who are closest and dearest to them. And that leads to a scarcity mindset, a denial mindset. So then you get things like denial of reality, denial of election results, denial of all of that.

Exactly. So, you know, you could just see how it’s just dominoes, you know, how it affects and it just has to start in the home. And that’s why, you know, when I came up with the name of the summit, Peace Begins at Home. I just think it so perfectly sums that up because it does connect it all, you know?

Yeah. Well, that is wonderful. And I’d love to hear, like, you said that your self-care has gone out the window, but I’m imagining, like we touched on it earlier, but with the collective care element, the Heal part of my framework, because the Heal part, it’s, I work a lot with trauma survivors and ADHDers, and that sense of justice sensitivity and the desire to break trauma cycles and, like, help heal things to make things safer for future generations and current generations. The idea of turning what hurts people’s hearts into action. At different stages, you might be able to do the active self-care (Feel), you might be able to get yourself to walk or whatever it might be. Or it might be that you have no bandwidth for that, but you are able to give yourself some grace (Love). Or it might be that that’s impossible.

But even the idea of a future version of yourself feeling OK enough to begin to help use your pain to guide others or to ease in some way, but sorry, that’s a really convoluted way of describing it. But I’m thinking, I’m imagining that you’re liaising with all of these amazing speakers that is helping you with your co-regulation, helping you feel more hopeful about 2025 and beyond. And I might be putting words in your mouth, I don’t mean to be doing that. But I wondered, is that the case? Or what does help you turn the pain into hope?

Yeah, I mean, it’s a funny thing, this project started because I was kind of entering a year of yes. OK, so I had sold a part of my business, and I was like, what is next? Right. And when I met Dr. Eisler, it was funny, I met her at a webinar, and she kind of dropped into our breakout room by accident, when she was meant to be kind of like my speaker break. And we got chatting. And she said, Listen, will you help me? I, you know, I, you know, I just, she said what you do. And anyway, she said, Look, can you reach out? I’ve got this project that I want to do.

And can you help me? And I was like, and I had decided that last year was my Year of Yes. So I was like, yes, absolutely. That’s fine.

Anyway, and so it went on. And I have followed the yeses throughout this whole project. It has been I have done many, many projects in my time.

And with this one, I think what has really helped is that I was very conscious of just following my instinct. You know, and when a speaker didn’t feel right, I didn’t pursue it. When something didn’t, you know, it was just like, I kind of really have tapped in to what is needed now.

And have just kind of asked, I’ve kind of gone, “OK, Spirit, God, Mother Earth, Gaia, you know, just use me for the greater good, you know, and I have just followed wherever that has taken me.” And to be honest, I think that has saved me, because I am a team of one.

Yeah, wow.

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