I remember a talk offered by a therapist in my first-year orientation to

seminary, and I think the talk was something like, “How do I know if

therapy is for me?” I really don’t remember what the therapist said – I was

too busy sizing up the room, thinking about these, my future classmates,

and also doing my own diagnostics. Scanning the room, everyone was so fit

and sharp looking, everyone’s Nalgene had the coolest stickers. I thought

to myself, “No way any of you need therapy.” Again, I don’t remember

anything the therapist said but I do remember her response a question I

asked her. Trying to appear like I was really engaged, and also

psychologically subtle, I said, “I struggle distinguishing between what I

need and what I want. I often feel like I need recognition, but when I get

it, it’s not as satisfying as I want it to be.”