“If you really want to get to know someone, you can ask them about times

they felt small, or guilty, or loved so much that they at once felt fully

alive and fully unworthy. Or you could ask them about failure and success

and how the meaning of those words have, like the color of the leaves,

changed through the seasons of their lives. But maybe the question that

would take you deepest would be a question that you hadn’t thought to ask:

‘Can you tell me about your unanswered prayers?’”