Oftentimes we get upset with our partners, our friends because they have hurt us in some way. We assume that they should know this. We assume they should be aware that we are in pain because of them, that they have been unloving, thoughtless, inconsiderate in some way. we assume they can read our minds and that we shouldn't have to tell them that we're upset or why we're upset. This is absurd. We need to express ourselves. We need to tell people when they have hurt our feelings and have a thoughtful conversation with them so that we can resolve the problem and not perpetuate a resentment.