Let’s set the scene: You’re walking down Main Street with your family to your usual, every Thursday night dinner spot. You’ve walked down this street and eaten at this restaurant countless times, and each time, 1 of 2 things always happens… If you’re not adopted, people don’t spare more than a glance in your direction because you look the same as the company you’re with. But if you are adopted, peoples’ eyes linger and you can see, behind their gaze, their minds trying to figure out why you look different than others in your group. Now, imagine a 3rd possibility - you are adopted, but nobody stares because you look like your mom or your dad. Are you grateful to be spared those lingering awkward glances? Or does it make your adoption feel invalidated? Do you even notice? Do you even care? Lily is no stranger to this 3rd possibility, and on this episode, she chats with me about what it’s like to live it every day.