Welcome to the fourth episode of selflove with Sharmila. This week, we discuss our need for human connection - with our peers, colleagues, family and friends. But the necessity to choose our social interactions wisely. 

As humans we crave connection. But over the last few weeks that our social lives have been disrupted by disease, we have all gone into corrective modes. Social distancing is a great educator. It is also a period of getting in touch with ourselves and truly forging a bond with our own self and learning to spend time in enrichment and growth. Selflove is about protecting our energy from externalities. Selflove is about not letting our own judgment come in our own way.

Most of us are busy and hyperactive and do not have time left for our own refection. We often give too much of ourselves to our work, our family and friends. When our personal resources fall thin, we are left looking for entertainment or community to help build us up.

We get addicted to people, we need to talk all the time. We need to keep busy all the time to prevent ourselves from getting intimate with our own thoughts. We even ignore stress building from inside.

But isolation, personal time and social distancing are a great way to cleanse your social calendar. Mindless group activity – joining up communities just to belong or out of fear of missing out – motional erosion. Choosing company which is aligned with your wellbeing and growth. Also choosing to be around people who uplift. With excessive access to technology, we are connected to 100s of people at all time. Messages, calls are being bombarded. So how do we create healthy connections?

Lets think quality over quantity. What about having a handful of friends who you share a nurturing space with? Like making time to meet them or doing things together instead of just sending whatsapp messages and likes? What about creating hobby based communities where people cometogether and learn?