Wilder Wellness

People pleasing: Why we do it, how it serves us, and how it holds us back.


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Feeling anxious about how other people view you? Feeling guilty saying no, or speaking your mind? Feeling the need to fix or solve people’s problems in order to feel valuable? Saying yes to too many things and then feeling angry or resentful? You might have some traits of people pleasing, but don’t feel too alarmed because we do too! Kristen and Kristin are talking about their own unresolved people-pleasing tendencies and how it shows up in various aspects of their life. We discuss the roots of people pleasing as an maladaptive coping mechanism and the detrimental impacts people pleasing has on our overall happiness and well being. 

In this episode we discuss:

  1. Kristin and Kristen discuss how to identify people pleasing behaviors and how it shows up in their personal lifes, too. 

  2. People Pleasing as a response to trauma and emotional neglect during critical development.

  3. The impacts of people pleasing on our sense of self, relationships, and physical wellbeing.

  4. We explore ways to challenge people pleasing behavior and helpful affirmations to rewire thought processes involved in people pleasing. 

  5. You can learn more about the hosts ⁠Kristen Ales, LPC⁠, and ⁠Kristin Mathes, LCSW⁠ by visiting their websites.

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    Wilder WellnessBy Kristen Ales, LPC + Kristin Mathes, LCSW