In this episode of Living in Mid-Bloom, I dive into the complex topic of people-pleasing. Together with my guest, Petra van Deijl, we explore why so many of us fall into the habit of putting others before ourselves. From childhood conditioning and fear of conflict to past trauma and guilt, people-pleasing can often feel like a trap that’s hard to escape. But there is hope! We also discuss practical steps to reclaim our sense of self and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Three Ideas to Avoid the People-Pleasing Trap:

1. Set Clear Boundaries: Define and communicate your personal boundaries, and practice saying “no” without guilt. Remember, saying no is a complete sentence.
2. Prioritize Self-Care: Put your own needs first by scheduling regular time for activities that nurture and recharge you. When you prioritize yourself, others will follow suit.
3. Reflect and Ask ‘Why?’ When you feel the urge to please, pause and ask, “Am I doing this out of genuine care or fear of disapproval?” Understanding your motivation can help you make more authentic choices.

Petra van Deijl is an International Certified Life Coach & Breath Work Practitioner, and,  works with clients from all over the world. Petra specializes in addressing narcissistic and emotional abuse within seemingly loving relationships. 

Please feel free to get in touch with Petra at her website or send her an email:

Petravandeijl.com
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