So, this is one of the most important lessons I have ever learned, and I would LOVE to share it with you.

I had to learn this lesson a MILLION times before, and I guess I will need to learn it a couple of times more. But that's ok.

Just KNOWING how this works, can change a LOT for you.

One of my qualities is that I always see the good in people.

And most of the time that brings me SO much good stuff.

And other times it gets me into trouble.

It's also what my boss always used to say to me when I was still in my day job: "Maartje, you always see possibilities in people."

And yes, I do.

I look at people a lot from the place of their Souls perspective.

I can always see their potential.

And maybe you recognize this.

But a lot of the time people aren't there yet, and maybe they will never get there, and perhaps it's not even possible for them.

That's why it's important to look at people's BEHAVIOUR when co-creating with them on the physical level.

I learned this lesson from Oprah Winfrey. And she learned it from Maya Angelou. This is the quote that has always stuck with me:

"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.

~Maya Angelou

Remember this because it will happen many times in your life. When people show you who they are the first time believe them. Not the 29th time. When a man doesn't call you back the first time, when you are mistreated the first time, when someone shows you lack of integrity or dishonesty the first time, know that this will be followed many many other times, that will some point in life come back to haunt or hurt you. Live your life in truth. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. You will survive anything if you live your life from the point of view of truth. -- Oprah Winfrey."

I always say truth is the highest vibration. I also talked about this in module 8 of the FREE Ultimate manifesting program. You can access all the modules HERE.

And when you are entirely truthful with yourself about what you want, desire and about who you ARE and you start honoring that truth, your WHOLE Universe becomes differently.

And I KNOW that can be the most challenging thing there is. Because that probably means you have to let go of things and people that aren't working for you.

I experienced the same thing with my husband when I decided to separate from him.

There where a couple of things that I really desired when it came to a partner relationship. And we have had discussions about it a LOT of times. I told him what I longed for. And of course, he did his best to change. And then it WAS different for about a day or maybe a couple of days, and then he fell back into his old behavior.

And it was also the other way around. He also wanted things from me that I couldn't give him. And of course, I also did the best I could to give him these things, but in trying that I felt empty and removed from my true self.

And eventually felt resentment because I felt he was pushing me to be someone I was not. Well, of course, HE didn't do that, but that is the way I felt at that moment.

Since I have admitted to myself that he will never be THAT person and I am no longer wanting him to be that person a weight has been lifted of my shoulders.

Of course, also admitting to myself that I simply can't be THAT person for HIM and HE has to find that with someone else, has also really liberated me. And HIM too.

We had some deep and sometimes hard conversations about it. The first two weeks, almost every day. But since about a week, we are at peace with the new situation.

And our relationship has grown into something we are both SO grateful with.

Now we both have the change to connect with people who DO embody all the qualities we have been looking for.