On this episode of The Sacred Sofa, Brad and Grace unpack a quietly radical idea: what if the problem isn’t you — but the impossible standard of what it means to be human?

Together, they explore the tension between who we are and who we think we should be, diving into inner conflict, self-protective patterns, and the relentless pressure to “fix” ourselves. They speak candidly about shame, the limits of self-optimization, and the emotional toll of striving for a version of peace that may not even exist.

This is a grounded, compassionate conversation about therapy, grace, and the kind of change that doesn’t demand perfection, just honesty. If you’ve ever felt exhausted trying to become a better version of yourself, this episode offers a different path forward.