Perfectionism is something that I have grappled with most of my adult life. Feelings of not being good enough, black and white thinking, obsessive compulsions and comparison have been constant companions for many years.
It's a trap many of us fall into and at times it's hard to unravel these behavioural patterns and adopt a more positive approach.
Shelley Laslett is a neuroscience coach, social scientist, international speaker and also has a lived experience with perfectionism.
In the first of two parts, Shelley discusses that we don't ever stop being a perfectionist, but you can learn how to handle the negative elements of it and adapt them to become more positive, how any strengths overplayed can become a weakness, awareness is the key with any form of understanding self, the difference between adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism and how the people younger than 35 feel that perfectionism is engrained in their identity. 
You can find Shelley at:
Website: https://www.vitae.coach/meetshelley 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vitaecareercoach/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelley.vitae/ 
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/vitae.coach/ 
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Perfectionism - Shelley Laslett

The aim of this podcast is to educate and assist listeners on their journey to better understand, invest into and improve their individual wellbeing, in what has been a challenging year for us all.
PukaUp Founder &amp; AFL legend Wayne Schwass, draws on his personal 26 year wellbeing journey to combine authentic and genuine storytelling with skill-based learning through inspiring conversations with a wide variety of world-class wellbeing experts, thought leaders and qualified practitioners to explore the benefits and value of the practical tools, techniques and strategies available that can help you start your mental health journey and begin to invest into your wellbeing.
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Part 2 of the conversation with Shelley Laslett, begins with me thanking her for the gentle nudge I needed to make a commitment to my wellbeing again and start seeing a psychologist again. Thank you Shelley!!!
In this episode we discuss the signs of perfectionism including criticising ourselves, why its important to allow ourselves time to celebrate our achievements and how we can move from maladaptive to adaptive perfectionism if we take out the word failure and simply put in the words not yet.
Shelley also shares some practical and timely quotes including how our boundaries are the fences to your freedom, we can't lead anybody if we're not willing to lead ourselves, if we change the way we look at things things change and if your best friend wouldn't;t say it to you don't say it to yourself.
You can find Shelley at:
Website: https://www.vitae.coach/meetshelley 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vitaecareercoach/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelley.vitae/ 
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/vitae.coach/ 
Email: hello@vitae.coach  Support the show: http://pukaup.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Perfectionism Pt 2 - Shelley Laslett

Connection – what is it, why do we need it, why is it so important to us and what’s the relationship between connection and our health?
Shelley Laslett a neuroscience coach, social scientist, international speaker and an expert in the area of connection.
In this episode we explore the relationship between connection and a healthy mind, how connection is a key ingredient in all of our relationships, to establish connection we simply need to create common ground, appropriate ways to resolve conflict and how we often speak to be heard not to listen.
You can find Shelley at:
Website: https://www.vitae.coach/meetshelley 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vitaecareercoach/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelley.vitae/ 
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/vitae.coach/ 
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Connection - Shelley Laslett

It takes a special kind of person to be a full time carer.
Someone willing to to put the needs of another person ahead of their own. Someone who is selfless, compassionate who is prepared to sacrifice a career, their identity and future opportunities.
I don’t think I could do it, but Kris Pierce has done it and continues to be the full time carer of her 18 year old son Will.
Carers are often a forgotten group of people, who struggle to be seen, heard and acknowledged for the incredible work they do every day across the country.
In this enlightening conversation Kris talks about trusting others to care for her son, guilt, the importance of filling her own bucket, why it’s important to accept help when it’s offered and how her role as a carer has taught her more about herself including becoming braver in her decisions
You can find Kris at:
Website: https://sleephub.com.au/about-us/kris-pierce-sleep-wellness-coach-melbourne/ 
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Twitter: @Sleep_Hub 
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Carers - Kris Pierce

Professor Harriet Hiscock, is a consultant paediatrician and National Health & Medical Research Council Practitioner Fellow. She is the Associate Director, Research at the Centre for Community Child Health, Director of the Royal Children's Hospital Health Services Research Unit and Group Leader, Health Services, Murdoch Children's Research Institute. Her research focuses on care and integrated health, social and education services to improve health and wellbeing for children, including those living with family adversity.
Professor Vicki Anderson, is a paediatric neuropsychologist, working across clinical, research and academic sectors.  She is the Director of Psychology at The Royal Children's Hospital and Director, Clinical Sciences Research, Murdoch Children's Research Institute. She is an Australian National Health and Medical Research Senior Practitioner Fellow and a University of Melbourne Professorial Fellow (Psychology & Paediatrics). Her primary research and clinical interest focuses on improving outcomes from early childhood brain disorders. 
In this episode Professor’s Hiscock & Anderson, discuss why slowing down and making time as parents to support our own mental health are helpful strategies to support your child’s wellbeing and why it’s important parents are able to distinguish between regular physical symptoms and a possible underlying mental health issue.
Professors Hiscock and Anderson explain why listening is therapeutical for our children and why we underestimated its value, that knowing your child and being in touch with them is paramount to understanding them as individuals, how irritability is a sign of depression in teenagers, how dads are role models for men for their daughters, that the worst thing we can do it to confront our kids with any concerns as parents.
They also discuss the importance of providing safe spaces for your child to talk, the job of a teenager is to grow apart from their parents and become adults themselves, they offer some great advice for separated parents who share custody of their children and why reflection and self and regulation are critically important for young people.
Finally, Professors Hiscock and Anderson share 3 practical tips for parents to help set boundaries for their children. Support the show: http://pukaup.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Perfectionism - Shelley Laslett

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