Unapologetically Imperfect

Perimenopause - Your Doctor's Not Listening, Now What?


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🎙 S2, Ep 9 – Your Doctor’s Not Listening… Now What?

If you’ve ever walked out of a doctor’s office wondering if you were gaslit—or just going crazy—you’re not alone. The truth? You’re not broken. You’re in a system that still ignores the very real realities of perimenopause.

This episode is a smart, strategic, and unfiltered deep dive into what to do when your doctor doesn’t listen—and how to stop doubting what you know in your bones is real.

We talk about:

  • Why “your labs are normal” is not the full story
  • How perimenopause symptoms are dismissed as anxiety, aging, or attitude
  • The lab work that actually matters (hint: it’s not just hormone panels)
  • What to say, how to say it, and how to protect yourself in the exam room
  • Why HRT safety depends on proper clot risk screening—and what to ask for
  • How to rebuild self-trust when you’ve been dismissed too many times

This one’s packed with tools, stories, and a full breakdown of the labs to request (including when they matter and when they don’t). Whether you’re considering HRT, feeling ignored, or just want to feel seen, start here.

🔍 What You’ll Learn:
  • Why most doctors get less than 4 hours of menopause training
  • When hormone panels help—and when they’re useless
  • The difference between oral and transdermal estrogen (and why it matters for clot risk)
  • How to speak your doctor’s language using CBT-based communication tools
  • What “learned helplessness” looks like in women’s healthcare—and how to break the cycle
  • How to track symptoms + labs to build a clearer health picture
  • When to say “enough” and fire your provider

🩺 Mentioned Labs & Screening Tools:

We cover these in the episode—ask your provider when considering HRT or if you're getting dismissed:

  • âś… Full Thyroid Panel (TSH, Free T4, Free T3)
  • âś… Vitamin D, B12, Iron/Ferritin
  • âś… Cortisol (AM, especially with fatigue)
  • âś… Hormone Panel (Estradiol, Progesterone, Testosterone, FSH, SHBG)
  • âś… Bone Density Scan (if 40+)
  • âś… Clotting Risk Labs (if family/personal risk or considering oral estrogen): PT/INR, aPTT, Factor V Leiden, Prothrombin G20210A, Protein C & S, Antithrombin III, Homocysteine, Antiphospholipid Antibodies

💬 Quote to Remember:“You’re not here for approval. You’re here for care.”🎧 Listen Now If You:
  • Feel dismissed, overwhelmed, or brushed off
  • Are considering HRT and want to know what’s safe for your body
  • Have symptoms but keep hearing “everything looks normal”
  • Want language and strategy to self-advocate without shutting down
  • Need the reminder that you’re not too much, too loud, or too dramatic

📲 Subscribe, follow, and share this episode with the friend who keeps wondering, “Is it just me?”

👀 Bonus: Want a symptom tracker or lab request script? DM me LABS and I’ll send it your way.

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Unapologetically ImperfectBy Jen Lee Morse