You are not a Victim! You must work on you!! Take the initiative to start moving out of your situation. You need to be emotionally stable--take charge of this!! You need to in good mental health--Take responsibility for this!! You need to spiritually sound--Learn what you need to in order to do this!! Discover how to be stable!! Listen to this and all of the podcasts. They are for educational purposes only, but learn what you can from them.