From movies to TV shows to social media, we're constantly surrounded by stories of love.

But how much of what we believe about romance is actually ours... and how much of it was shaped by what we've watched?

In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I reflect on romance on our screens, the expectations it creates, and the ways it can influence how we view relationships, love, and ourselves.

Maybe the stories we consume are shaping us more than we realize.

Article on Kobe Bryant- https://open.substack.com/pub/bi...

Articles on off campus- https://open.substack.com/pub/bi...

There’s a space that no one really talks about,the space between giving up and trying.

The place where you’re tired, uncertain, and questioning whether all your effort is leading anywhere. You're not ready to quit, but you're not as hopeful as you used to be either.

In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I reflect on that in-between season..the waiting, the frustration, the quiet resilience, and what it means to keep showing up when nothing seems to be changing.

Maybe not every season is about winning. Maybe some seasons are simply about staying.

Article on off campus- https://open.substack.com/pub/bi...

Sometimes it’s hard to be happy for people when you feel like life hasn’t been moving for you.

Not because you’re bitter… but because somewhere deep down, you start wondering when it’ll finally be your turn.

In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I reflect on comparison, silent pressure, insecurity, and the fear of being left behind. This is a conversation about learning to celebrate people without questioning your own worth in the process.

Maybe their success was never proof of your failure… maybe your story is just unfolding differently.

Article- https://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/healing-energy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=6l0qe5

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This episode feels a little all over the place… but maybe that’s the point.

I talk about my past obsession with physical appearance, pressure, growth, and what it feels like when you’re trying so hard but nothing seems to be showing yet.

Just a quiet conversation about becoming, uncertainty, and figuring things out in real time.

The quiet Ramadan article- https://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/the-quiet-ramadan?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=6l0qe5

The mindset shift episode- https://open.spotify.com/episode/6VBWOOakndg3brfbe7WtVB?si=mYEWOCAUSzKGS40yMQl6yQ

Hi lovelies, welcome back to another weekly episode of perspective unfiltered 💗✨

On today's episode, I talked about how we’re so quick to label things as good or bad…

but life doesn’t always feel that simple.

In this episode, I talk about the grey areanthe in-between space where things are not so clear, and maybe were never meant to be.

To get full episode check Spotify and Apple podcast

My latest article - https://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/seeking-validation-as-a-hopeless?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=6l0qe5

Where I get all my books from - https://oceanofpdf.com/

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At what point does respect start to feel like pressure?

In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I reflect on growing up in an African household where being “respectful” often means being quiet, obedient, and not questioning anything.

But somewhere in all of that, it’s easy to lose your voice without even realising it.

This isn’t about being disrespectful… it’s about understanding the difference between respect and people pleasing, and learning how to exist without constantly shrinking yourself.

My article on people pleasing

https://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/is-it-people-pleasing-or-just-manipulation?r=6l0qe5&utm_medium=ios

The enmeshment article

https://open.substack.com/pub/beautifullyunscripted/p/some-mothers-do-not-like-their-daughters?r=6l0qe5&utm_medium=ios

When everything starts to feel heavy, we rarely stop to ask… is all of this even mine?

In this episode, I reflect on the quiet pressure we carry people, expectations, and emotions that don’t always belong to us… and what it might look like to finally put it down.

He did everything right… chose medicine, became a doctor, made everyone proud.

But the truth?

It was never his dream.

In this episode, we talk about what it feels like to live a life that was chosen for you; the pressure, the expectations, and the quiet regret that comes with it.

Because sometimes, success isn’t the same as fulfillment.

By the way which business do you think he should get into?

Getting a first class is one thing… but stepping into real life is another.

In this episode, I sit down with Afeez as he shares what it actually feels like stepping into the real world, navigating the labour market, and figuring life out beyond the books. This is a conversation about expectations, pressure, growth, and the quiet realities nobody really prepares you for.

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Motherhood is often seen as beautiful and fulfilling, but there’s so much more beneath the surface. In this episode, I sit down with my aunt to talk about the real transition into motherhood the emotions, the changes, and the realities people don’t always speak about.

Dunn.homedecor- https://www.tiktok.com/@dunn.homedecor?_r=1&_t=ZS-94r1yg46L1m