PF Unfiltered

Are church people really the worst customers? PF, Esther and Kenneth get into why so many people expect Christians to be perfect, why "I don't take church clients" says more about the vendor than the customer, and whether pastors, musicians and church volunteers should be paid for their work.This is a funny, honest conversation about Christian business, church expectations and money. It covers the double standard people apply to churchgoers, the "earn God's favor" mindset, what Luke 10:7 says about paying workers, and why a $100 cake is never just $10 of ingredients. If you run a business, serve in church, or have ever asked for a "church discount," this one is for you.💬 Business owners: what's the one thing you wish customers understood? Customers: what do you wish vendors knew? Tell us in the comments and we may read it next episode.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Do church people make the worst customers? The 1–10 survey

01:51 "Worst customers": myth or truth?

02:56 Why we expect church people to be perfect

06:11 The double standard when one group gets labeled

08:16 Why church people shouldn't be held to a higher standard

11:21 The merit mindset: trying to earn God's favor

14:33 Should Christians give their skills away for free?

16:51 Should pastors and musicians be paid?

19:17 "The worker deserves his wages" (Luke 10:7)

21:09 What full-time ministry actually costs

23:16 Church wants excellence, but excellence takes time

28:55 Why you can't ask for a discount: cakes, hair and Bentleys

34:08 "I don't take church clients": what it says about the vendor

36:12 Know your value: the meat pie lesson📖

MENTIONED: Luke 10:7 · Deuteronomy 25:4 ("do not muzzle the ox")

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Should your pastor be your friend or is there a line? It's Pastor Appreciation Month, and PF gets honest about the things he'll never tell his congregation, and why he refuses to let anyone put him on a pedestal.Esther and Lorraine kick things off with the appreciation question nobody wants to answer: what have you actually done for your pastor? (PF's love language is gifts. He would like you to know that.) From there, the conversation turns serious. PF breaks down the different levels of friendship: spouse, close friends, leadership, congregation and why mutual respect matters more than total access. He also shares three stories: the day a church leader arrived at his open front door in the middle of an argument between PF and his wife; the church member who told him "I don't like my pastor to be normal," and why PF refuses to be put on a pedestal; and a phone call with another pastor that went wrong from the very first question.If you've ever wondered whether you can be close to your pastor, or why it gets complicated when you are, this one is for you.💬 Real talk: is your pastor your friend or do you prefer them on a pedestal? Tell us in the comments.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Cold Open: "Are You Ready to Be Unfiltered?"00:23 - Pastor Appreciation Month: What Did You Do for Your Pastor?03:23 - Should Your Pastor Be Your Friend?04:23 - Why Praying for Your Pastor Is Like a Car Wash06:13 - Is Your Pastor Actually Your Friend?06:52 - The Different Levels of Friendship08:41 - The Fight a Church Leader Overheard09:37 - "I Don't Like My Pastor to Be Normal": Pastors & Pedestals10:34 - The Pastor Who Asked "What Can I Do for You?"📱 CONNECT WITH US:• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• TikTok: @pfunfiltered• X (Twitter): @pfunfiltered• Listen on Spotify: @pfunfiltered#pfunfiltered #pastors #faithandculture #churchlife

Why do we cancel people based on a snapshot of their life, when God judges by something we can't even see? In Part 2 of "I Believe in God But I'm Not Religious," Pastor Femi, Lorraine and Tunde get into what actually makes someone a Christian, and why so much of how we judge each other has nothing to do with God's standard.PF explains that God counts you as a Christian because of what Christ did, not because of what you do, and that spiritual fruit grows in stages, so writing someone off at one moment is like judging the sun at 5 a.m. The crew unpacks the biblical line "judge things, not people," why the church publicly shames some sins while ignoring others like covetousness, and the difference between discernment and judgment. Tunde pushes back on whether a verbal confession should change how we treat people, which opens a real debate about the household of faith and Jesus' encounter with the Syrophoenician woman.Missed Part 1? Watch it here💬 Be honest: which sin does your church treat as "worse" than it is, and which one does it ignore? Tell us in the comments.CHAPTERS00:00 Part 2 recap: religion vs spirituality01:01 What actually makes someone a Christian?03:28 Faith vs fruit: why growth happens in stages07:29 Judge things, not people12:40 Confession as the baseline (and what we owe everyone)15:08 The hierarchy of sin the Bible doesn't teach17:37 If works don't save us, what's the point?22:13 Examine your own heart first25:18 Covetousness: the sin church never cancels28:06 Discernment vs judgment in real life29:57 Church discipline should restore, not humiliate34:08 "Christ makes sense, Christianity doesn't"38:05 Should believers be treated differently? The $5 debate47:12 Final word: humility and grace📱 CONNECT WITH US• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• TikTok: @pfunfiltered• X: @pfunfiltered#pfunfiltered #spirituality #religious #stopjudging #gracenotworks #christianity

Is the Bible misogynistic, or have we only been reading one verse of it?For the first time in 25 years, men are out-attending women at church (Barna, 2025). Gen Z and Millennial men are filling the pews while young women quietly walk out, and online, the Bible is getting the blame. PF and the crew dig into why. They take on the verses people quote most (1 Timothy's "let the women be silent," Ephesians 5's "wives, submit") and set them beside the ones people skip: "submit to one another," "husbands, lay down your life," and 1 Peter 3:7's warning that a husband who dishonors his wife has his prayers hindered.From Deborah and Esther to the women who first announced the resurrection, PF argues one verse can't define the whole of Scripture, while the co-hosts push back on patriarchy, translation bias, and Christians who use the Bible to control women.If you've ever wondered whether there's still room for you in the faith as a woman, stay to the end. PF speaks to you directly.💬 Is the Bible misogynistic, or are we reading it in snippets? Tell us in the comments. We read every one.CHAPTERS00:00 Why young men are running back to church00:36 Is the Bible misogynistic? The 1 Timothy question04:10 Deborah, Esther & the women Scripture elevates06:10 "Guide the house" vs "master of the home"08:41 Building a theology on one verse12:32 Old Testament laws that seem unfair to women14:40 Old Testament law vs the New Testament17:33 Did translators' biases shape the Bible?20:02 The Bible vs Christians who misuse it23:06 Ephesians 5: what "submit" really means26:55 Is the church just patriarchy?31:41 Why the church lost men and is winning them back33:16 Why young women are walking out37:00 PF's message to young women doubting their faith📱 FOLLOW THE SHOWInstagram / TikTok / X: @pfunfiltered🎧 Spotify & Apple Podcasts : PfunfilteredEmail: [email protected]📊 Barna data referenced: https://gloo.com/press/releases/new-study-shows-men-now-surpass-women-in-church-attendance-in-major-reversal#pfunfiltered #bible #misogyny #womeninthebible #genzchristian #faithdeconstruction

"I believe in God, but I'm not religious." You've heard it, maybe you've said it. But what does it actually mean, and is it enough?Pastor Femi (PF), Tunde Makanjuola and Loraine unpack spirituality and religion, starting with what "spiritual" really means and whether being over-spiritual is a thing. The crew gets personal: Tunde was hit and called ungrateful for not standing during worship, and PF shares the overnight service that made him say, "This God we are describing is too small for me to give my life to."Is God more likely to hear you at 3 a.m.? Is church attendance a fair test of someone's faith? Would you date someone who believes in God but doesn't do church? And if unbelievers sometimes behave better than Christians, what actually makes someone a Christian?💬 Be honest: have you ever called yourself "spiritual but not religious"? What did you mean by it? Tell us in the comments.CHAPTERS00:00 Spiritual but not religious?02:05 Spiritual vs. religious: what's the difference05:02 Is being "over-spiritual" a real thing?08:25 Do prayer watches matter? Is God a morning person?10:57 Hit for not standing during worship13:20 "This God is too small for me"17:25 "Did you go to church on Sunday?"19:28 God sees your heart, people see your fruit26:08 Emotionalism isn't spirituality27:45 Dating someone who doesn't share your faith33:09 "Unbelievers treat me better than Christians"35:32 Friend of God vs. enemy of God38:42 What actually makes someone a Christian?42:21 Discernment vs. judgment in church📱 CONNECT WITH US• Instagram / TikTok / X: @pfunfiltered• Spotify / Apple Podcasts: pfunfiltered#pfunfiltered #spiritualnotreligious #faith #christianity

Should you keep giving when you know some of those requests are scams? PF has a surprisingly freeing answer about black tax, generosity, and the line between being a blessing and being exploited.Most of us know the messages: school fees, rent, a sick relative, and sometimes a roof that doesn't exist. In this episode, PF, Loraine and Kenneth get honest about black tax and "billing," why $100 here can change someone's month back home, and PF's rule that God only asks you to give what He has put in your hand. Then Loraine and Kenneth push back hard: shouldn't you build wealth first before you start giving it away? It becomes one of the most spirited Bible-vs-worldly-wisdom debates we've had, covering stewardship, the parable of the talents, curses and village superstition, and whether it's okay to give expecting something back.💬 Where do you draw the line: do you answer every request, or do you need proof first? Tell us in the comments.CHAPTERS00:00 Giving vs. exploitation: where's the line?00:47 "If you're asking me, you don't have it"02:54 Won't giving just enable them?03:53 The self-made myth: hard work doesn't explain your blessing04:42 What $100 means in naira: black tax back home06:37 PF's $5 rule: give only what God gave you08:30 Rent money vs. family vacation: who comes first?11:13 What if you find out you were scammed?11:53 Billing, materialism, and the pressure back home16:02 Can someone curse you through your gift?19:37 Village houses, deaths, and correlation vs. causation20:38 The excuses we use to avoid giving23:09 "I've been walking on water": PF's credit card story26:18 Build wealth first, then give? The big debate30:45 God's economy: enough for your need, not your greed33:37 Can you give expecting something back?36:13 Manna, saving, and why generosity is always right37:02 "I'd rather be the one they try to scam"38:38 Final takeaways and sponsor📱 CONNECT WITH US• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• TikTok: @pfunfiltered• X: @pfunfiltered• Listen on Spotify: PF Unfiltered• Listen on Apple Podcasts: PF Unfiltered🍞 This episode is sponsored by Barrow Avenue Bakery!Fresh, artisan baked goods made daily. When PF needs mental rest, he bakes, and when we need great bread, we go to Barrow Avenue Bakery.Visit: barrowavenue.comFollow on Instagram: @2barrowavenue (Barrow Avenue Bakery)#pfunfiltered #podcast #blacktax #generosity #africanchristian

Everybody says they want to serve so why does modern church so often feel like a room full of people just watching? Season 5 is back, and Pastor Femi, Esther, and Tunde get honest about what SERVICE actually looks like when no one's watching.This isn't a lecture on volunteering. It's a real conversation about rest without guilt, why "doing nothing" can be harder than working, and how serving inside a community is where faith actually grows roots. PF also does something you rarely hear from a pastor: he critiques the big-hall, concert-style Sunday format from the inside and explains why he still won't close the doors on Sunday morning.Along the way: the teacher's words that shaped him for 30 years, why he can't survive more than three days of vacation, and a candid disagreement about whether being "good" is something you're born as or something you're raised into.Chapters

00:00 — Season 5 is officially back01:01 — Why pastoring never clocks out03:00 — What "serving your kids" actually looks like07:34 — A calling, not just a job09:40 — Why doing nothing stresses PF out15:10 — Healing from "you're bone lazy"17:45 — Do you really have a heart of service?22:00 — "Being female doesn't make you better"23:46 — How serving in community changed everything26:05 — Service is just everyday chances to help29:30 — You can't do faith alone34:53 — Christianity became a spectator sport38:00 — A pastor admits Sunday service is broken40:22 — The church that only works financially🔔 Subscribe — we're building toward 100K.CONNECT• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• TikTok: @pfunfiltered• X: @pfunfiltered• Listen on Spotify & Apple Podcasts: [PF Unfiltered]#pfunfiltered #service #churchcommunity #christians

What happens when someone checks all your boxes… but still isn’t right for you?In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF and the crew respond to real audience questions on relationships, singleness, sex, purity, marriage, fear, standards, and the confusion a lot of Christians carry into modern dating.This conversation goes straight at unequally yoked relationships, why “boxes” can become walls, why fear disguises itself as standards, why some people are not looking for love but for a resume, and how Christians keep approaching marriage like they’re hiring staff instead of building a life with someone.PF also gets brutally honest about singleness, male disengagement from church, purity in a hyper-sexualized culture, and how desire gets stirred long before people admit it.In this episode:- What to do when someone checks all the boxes but doesn’t share your faith- The real difference between a standard and a wall- Why fear is shaping modern Christian dating- Why PF says marriage is not an employment contract- Why some men lose interest in marriage after repeated disappointment- Purity, porn, desire, and what people keep feeding their minds- Communication, sex, and difficult marriage questions from the commentsDrop your thoughts in the comments:Are Christians dating from conviction or from fear?Chapter Markers0:00 Adult Disclaimer1:29 Comment Questions Begin3:48 Unequally Yoked5:28 Marriage Is a Boxing Ring8:33 Love vs Religiosity9:04 Standards or Walls?10:40 Dating From Fear12:32 Love vs Checklists14:06 You're Not Hiring a Spouse18:52 The Singleness Block19:38 Single Women vs Single Men22:06 Why Church Feels Effeminate24:34 The 40-Year-Old Single Man27:50 Perfection Doesn’t Exist28:15 Sex and Purity29:02 What Ignites Desire31:06 Purity Takes Radical Choices32:11 Marry Quickly?34:49 Masturbation and Temptation38:39 Porn Rewires the Brain40:44 Sex, Marriage, and Communication#pfunfiltered #christiandating #relationships

Where did miracles go?In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF tackles one of the biggest questions many Christians quietly ask: why does it feel like we don’t see miracles the way people talk about them in Acts, revival stories, or old-school church culture?But the real answer is sharper than most people expect. PF argues that the modern church has confused the spectacular with the miraculous and in the process, we’ve turned Christ into a dispenser of comfort instead of the One miracles were always meant to reveal.This conversation goes straight at miracle culture, prosperity logic, emotionalism, transactional giving, and the dangerous habit of presenting Jesus as a problem solver instead of a Savior. If miracles are supposed to witness to Christ, what happens when the message is no longer Christ?In this episode:- Why PF says there is a “death of the spectacular” in the modern church- The difference between the spectacular and the miraculous- Why signs and wonders were meant to witness to Christ- How churches turn prayer, fasting, and giving into tools for material gain- Why “come to Jesus and get your problem solved” is a broken gospel- The difference between sacrificial giving and spiritual manipulationDrop your thoughts in the comments:Are miracles disappearing or are we preaching the wrong message?Chapter Markers0:00 Problem Solver vs Savior1:38 Where Did Miracles Go?3:00 The Death of the Spectacular5:00 The Greatest Miracle6:05 Miracles Witness to Christ9:10 What Are We Preaching?13:36 Prayer and Fasting Misused15:00 Selling Miracles18:02 Emotionalism in Church19:46 Consumer Christianity20:13 Sacrifice vs Manipulation24:47 Don’t Borrow to Give27:00 Why Nations Stay Broken30:16 When Church Stops Being About Christ32:47 Prosperity Short-Circuits the Gospel36:14 Miracles Must Point to Christ38:54 Friends for Food40:09 Miracles Without Faith40:40 Hungry for Righteousness41:16 He’s Not an Employment Agency#pfunfiltered #pastorfemi #miracles #culture #prosperity #gospel #christian #church #manipulation #signsandwonders #modernchristianity #spectacular #christianpodcast #transactionalfaith #prayerandfasting #sacrificialgiving #jesus

Who are you, really? Not your job title, not your bank account, not your relationship status. If all of that disappeared tomorrow, what's left?

In this episode, PF, Rosalyn, and Kenneth get honest about the identity crisis most Christians won't talk about and why the answer isn't just quoting "fearfully and wonderfully made" in the mirror.PF breaks down why we let everyone except God define us, why men tie their worth to money and women tie theirs to marriage, and what happens when the things we've built our identity on inevitably change. This conversation will challenge how you see yourself and maybe free you from a definition that was never yours to carry.IN THIS EPISODEThe Apple analogy: why we trust a company to name its product but won't let God name usWhy men's identity crisis hits hardest when income dropsPF's honest admission: "I grew up hearing how dark I was"What "fearfully and wonderfully made" actually means (it's not what you think)Why your looks, your money, and your status are accessories — not your identityTIMESTAMPS00:00 Cold Open & Introduction: Rosalyn, Kenneth & PF01:44 Kenneth: "I've Always Attached My Identity to Socioeconomic Status"04:26 Rosalyn: "I Took on Other People's Personalities to Fit In"04:54 PF: How Identity Is Formed — "The Goalpost Is Not Determined By You"06:42 The Apple Analogy: Who Gets to Define You?08:01 Men Define Themselves by Money. Women by Marriage. Both Are Wrong.09:32 "If You Get It and Lose It — Then What?"10:01 The Manufacturer's Definition Never Changes12:01 "Fearfully and Wonderfully Made" — What It Actually Means13:04 Paul Was Single, Poor, and Died in Jail. Was He a Failure?16:01 "God Did Not Define Manhood by Financial Provision"17:32 Proverbs 31: The Wife Earned the Money. The Husband Did Politics.18:55 "If You Don't Have Children by Vaginal Delivery, You're Not a Woman" — Madness.20:24 Finding God vs. Having a Relationship with God22:03 "Everything Else Is Like Taking a Shower with Your Clothes On"22:42 What Does God Say About Beauty? (It's Not What the World Says)25:20 "I Made You That Dark Because I Wanted You That Dark"25:36 The Cake Analogy: God Made You for Himself, Not for Others27:29 The Parable of Talents: Why the Guy with 5 Wasn't Better Than the Guy with 229:00 The Toothpick: Nigerian Eyes vs. American Beauty Standards30:06 "We Interpret the Bible in Superficial Ways"31:06 PF: "I Grew Up Hearing a Lot of Very Negative Things About Myself"32:00 How to Replace Negative Identity with What Christ Says34:13 "Your Looks Are an Accessory to Do What You're Called to Do"34:22 "If I Had All the Money in the World, I Would Not Be a Pastor"37:18 "We Attach Our Identity to What We Have. Attach It to What God Says."39:17 Kenneth: "How Have You Defined Yourself Up to Now?"39:39 "Your Nose Is There for a Reason. That Shape — There's a Reason."40:02 Plastic Surgery: Fitting Your Body into What People Say It Should Be41:02 PF Tried Cocoa Waves. His Wife Said "Respect Yourself."42:27 "I Am Fearfully and Wonderfully Made to Do Excellent Works for God"44:34 Closing: Stop Comparing. Start Being Curious About Yourself.💬Real talk: If you stripped away your job, your money, your relationship status, who are you? Drop your answer below. Let's have the conversation.CONNECTInstagram: @pfunfilteredInstagram: @femi.omotayoChurch: newcovenanthouse.org#pfunfiltered #identityinchrist #christianpodcast #whoami #ChristianIdentity #selfworth #fearfullyandwonderfullymade #faithandculture #christianliving #purpose #beautystandards #comparison #christianmen #christianwomen #realtalk