💥FREE GIFT from Passion From Pain! Get Amy's Guide: “From Confusion to Clarity: 10 SIgns of a Manipulative & Mentally Abusive Relationship”: https://get.passionfrompain.com/from-confusion-to-clarity

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Listen to the full episode on Passion From Pain, The Podcast!
We go deep on:

- Why you're attracted to emotionally unavailable people (and they're attracted to you)
- The neuroscience behind trauma bonds—and why "just leave" doesn't work -
- How your childhood programmed you to accept less than you deserve -
- The difference between anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles -
- What family court battles reveal about narcissistic manipulation -
- Practical tools to break the cycle and build secure relationships
This isn't about blaming yourself.
 
This is about understanding the invisible patterns controlling your choices—so you can finally choose differently.
If you've ever asked yourself "Why do I keep doing this?"—this episode is for you.

ABOUT DR. DEBORAH LUKOVICH: Dr. Deborah Lukovich is a licensed clinical psychologist, attachment theory expert, and trauma recovery specialist. She works with individuals navigating narcissistic abuse, family court systems, and complex relationship trauma. Her approach combines neuroscience, attachment research, and real-world strategies for healing.

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https://www.amazon.com/When-Sex-Meets-God-Unraveling/dp/B0FY1WSSJZRESOURCES MENTIONED: -

-  Attachment Theory 101 -
- Trauma Bonding Explained -
- Nervous System Regulation Techniques
TIMESTAMPS: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo - Cold Open https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=164s - Welcome to Passion From Pain https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=195s - Meet Dr. Deborah Lukovich https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=320s - The Midlife Unraveling Begins https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=585s - The Magazine That Changed Everything https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=750s - When Everything Falls Apart at Once https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=970s - The Unconscious Knows Before You Do https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=1165s - The First Twinge of Discontent https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=1420s - Depression as Communication (Not a Problem) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=1635s - Sitting in the Dark Night of the Soul https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=1850s - When Sex Meets God: The Split Between Desire & Spirituality https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=2300s - The Fifty Shades Phenomenon & Cultural Wounds https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=2555s - Online Dating as Unconscious Work https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=2770s - The Transformative Relationship That Changed Everything https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=3025s - Why We Don't Bash Our Exes (Conscious Uncoupling) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=3255s - Dreams: What People Get Wrong About Symbols https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=3533s - Final Message: Your Falling Apart Has Meaning https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssfSuxKf-oo&t=3606s - Outro & Credits 🔥

ABOUT PASSION FROM PAIN: This is the podcast for survivors of manipulation, mental abuse, and toxic relationships who are rebuilding their lives. No toxic positivity. No fluff. Just raw truth, actionable strategies, and real conversations about the hard parts of healing.

Host: Amy Pease
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