Are you wondering how to find your life's purpose? In this episode, I speak with Dr. Kim Alexander about how to follow pleasure to find our purpose, honouring our mistakes to create self-compassion, and how being guided by our values can simplify our lives. She shares so many gems of wisdom with me on these and other topics, you will not want to miss this transformative episode. 

Dr. Alexander is an Obstetrician/Gynecologist who focuses on Sexual Health, and Vulvar Health. You can sign up for her newsletter at https://www.drkimalexander.com/, and connect with her on Instagram and Twitter where she is @drkimalexander. 

Today's tool for transformation is the song "Perdido" by Sarah Vaughan. Do yourself a favor and have a listen to this one. If you're anything like me, you won't be able to stop yourself from dancing!

Today's Takeaways: 

1.  Every person has inherent worth and dignity. Try to reflect on where you can live with this in mind. 

2. In a relationship, (any relationship, for example with kids), use the framework, "This is what I need. What do you need? " as a way to get everyone's needs met.

3. Our life purpose is to seek pleasure. Pleasure is worship. 

4. Find out what you can reduce in your life to learn rest. Make space to make space. 

5. Replace your "I shoulds" with "I wants."

6. Self-compassion is honoring your mistakes. Learn the three part apology to make amends.

7. Let go of judgment of others. Don't yuck somebody else's yum.

8. Different people have different values. Let your values guide your choices. 

9. Remember the spoon theory (https://www.webmd.com/multiple-sclerosis/features/spoon-theory) How many spoons do you have today? 

10.  If somebody's best is not contributing to your pleasure or connection with you, and if they don't share the same values, they may not be the right person to have in your inner circle. 

11. Reflect on, what is your task for the next phase of your life?