Plumbline — Episode 120 Years Married — Do We Still Like Each Other?
Welcome to Plumbline.
In this first episode, Dave and Hope introduce the podcast and talk honestly about why they decided to start it in the first place.
After more than 20 years of marriage, three children, busy careers and all the chaos that comes with family life, they found themselves asking some surprisingly simple questions: Who are we now? Are we still connected? Do we really know each other?
Rather than waiting for a crisis, they decided to make space to have the conversations they hadn't been having — and to explore what happens when two people who have grown and changed over the years deliberately choose to get to know each other again.
They also talk about their rather unconventional decision to move their family into Hope's parents' farmhouse, the realities of intergenerational living, raising teenagers, and the unexpected catalyst that helped push them towards the move: rats. Lots of rats.
Along the way, they reflect on marriage, communication, parenting, family, faith, changing seasons of life and the importance of making time for the people closest to us.
This is the beginning of the journey — and they're figuring it out as they go.
In this episode
- Why Dave and Hope started Plumbline.
- Being married for more than 20 years and growing together — and sometimes apart.
- What happens when life gets so busy that your relationship becomes the "buffer".
- The importance of deliberately making time for each other.
- How therapy helped them recognise that they needed to reconnect.
- How much people can change over the course of a long relationship.
- Moving with three teenagers into Hope's parents' farmhouse.
- The realities — and unexpected benefits — of intergenerational living.
- Their experience of raising premature twins and navigating those early years.
- Learning from different generations within the family.
- Why communication matters when you're living with your in-laws.
- What Dave and Hope hope to explore in future episodes.
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Plumbline is about having honest conversations about relationships, parenting, culture, faith and life — without pretending we've got everything figured out.
We'd love you to join us on the journey.
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