Someone told me some time ago sometimes you have to be the change you want to see . Meaning be good to people even when they don't deserve it, be nice.  Christian ministry it's not about you as much as it is about helping people and being the witness that you need to be The Bible says to be perfect even as your father is perfect in heaven Matthew 5 and 48 talk talks about this. Remember you're not there to fix people sometimes you're just there to listen.  I believe it's a really good thing and a commandment to go to church The Bible talks about to not forsake the assembling of yourself together.