In this episode, I interview Kevin Patterson, author of Love’s Not Color Blind and Educator with Unf*ck Your Polyamory. We talk about compassion, freedom, and control in non-monogamy, polyamorous weddings, race and non-monogamous spaces, pitfalls in long-term polyamory, communication skills, and more!    Ads:  - Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands - Enjoy porn you can learn from. Use code XOSCHOLARS   and get a seven-day free trial at  https://afterglow.ubpages.com/xoscholars/   Kevin:   https://www.instagram.com/polyrolemodels/   If you want a more on polyamory and ethical non monogamy, check out these past episodes:  -08 with Dirty Lola  - 177 Open Smarter with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova - 199 and 200 with Jessica Esfandiary and Lauren Urbiztondo - 137 and 214 with Kate Loree - 227 with Irene Morning   FOLLOW US   Twitter Instagram Facebook   Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

241 Poly Role Models with Kevin Patterson

Sluts & Scholars is one of Cosmopolitan's "Hot Podcasts to Listen To." Nicoletta Heidegger is a licensed marriage and family therapist and sexologist and she chats with folks from across sexuality, kink, and professional spectrums about desire, pleasure, shame, stigma and (of course) bodily functions. Combining irreverence and expertise, on the docket is anything remotely related to sexual, reproductive and bodily autonomy; from the indigenous menstrual practices of the Hupa Valley tribe, to beauty confidence advice from Dita von Teese,  and anal sex pro tips from Jessica Drake. Sluts and Scholars is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com

*Sluts and scholars is a sex positive, shame free, educational podcast where we try to help make your sex smarter and your smarts sexier. While we love to give advice and resources, please note that this podcast is not intended to be therapy or a replacement for therapy. Thanks for tuning in and we hope you enjoy!

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  This week I am joined by porn performer, filmmaker, and artist Robby Apples. He shares how doing porn and psychedelic medicine helped him to heal his social anxiety. We also talk about what it is really like on set for male performers, overcoming insecurities, empowerment through self love, and why humans struggle with always wanting more, more, more! Also- can an apple a day really make you a porn star?    Ads:  All discounts: https://linktr.ee/slutsandscholars  Dipsea: Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands Factor: Head to FACTORMEALS.com/sluts50 and use code sluts50 to get 50% off your first box plus 20% off your next box   Robby: https://robbyapples.com/   Ask a Question here    FOLLOW US   Twitter Instagram Facebook   Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

283 Eat Healthy and F*ck Like a Porn Star with Robby Apples

   Sarah Tomchesson, C.S.E. (she/her) advocates for sexual liberation through her work as a sex educator, sex toy evangelist and podcast host. Sarah has spent much of her career shaping legendary sex toy brands, including Pleasure Chest, Babeland, and Lovehoney. Currently she holds the position of Director of Marketing for the iconic Magic Wand brand. Sarah firmly believes in the power of pleasure as a healing tool. She is a certified sexuality educator and has been developing, programming, and presenting pleasure-based sex education nationwide since 2007. Sarah co-hosts the F*ck Yeah Podcast, which aims to disrupt harmful ideas about sexuality, intimate relationships, identity, parenthood, and more. She is also a mom and on the Board of Directors of SIECUS – Sex Ed for Social Change (siecus.org), the nation’s leading sex education policy non-profit. We answer some listener questions, talk about the famous Magic Wand, as well as: can you get addicted to your vibrator?       Research Discussed    Article about "Dead Vagina Syndrome"      Episodes talked about:     Asexuality    Erotic Blueprint      Books mentioned:   - Come Together (Nagoski)  - Sex When You Don't Feel Like It (Darnell)      Sarah's Podcast: https://fuckyeahpod.com/     Magic Wand: https://hitachimagic.com    Have a question or want to check out our advertiser discount codes?! Click here    FOLLOW US   Twitter Instagram Facebook   Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

282 The Magic Wand with Sarah Tomchesson

 Lisa Bloom Esquire is an attorney specializing in LGBTQ rights, Civil Rights, sexual harassment and assault cases. Daughter of famous civil rights attorney Gloria Allred, Lisa was raised to help everyday people in their fight for justice. Her firm, The Bloom Firm, continues to focus on fighting for victims of discrimination, harassment and abuse with compassion, as she is a survivor herself. She is also an author and media personality and has successfully represented many high profile celebrity cases, such as many of the brave Trump, Cosby, and Epstein survivors. TW: We will touch on topics related to consent, sexual assault, rape, and the civil court system. As always, please take care however you need to.   Ads:  Dipsea: Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands   Lisa Bloom: https://thebloomfirm.com/    FOLLOW US   Twitter Instagram Facebook   Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

281 Victims’ Rights: Fighting for Justice with Lisa Bloom

 Rena Martine is a women's intimacy coach, former Sex Crimes Deputy District Attorney for the Los Angeles County D.A.'s Office, and author of The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love. Today we answer some listener Q and A’s about non-monogamy. Then, we have a discussion about force and submission fantasies and how to reconcile these desires with survivorship and empowerment. Ad: OSEA use promo code SCHOLARS10 FOR 10% off at  https://oseamalibu.com/collections/body-care?utm_source=podcast&utm;_medium=influencer&utm;_campaign=032024_EVERGREEN_SLUTS+SCHOLARS   Ask a Q: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1h4zUjetKy6m9OxJO2VQx9hPdFhPcN9UXwVxZ0IWGifM/edit   Rena: https://www.renamartine.com/    FOLLOW US   Twitter Instagram Facebook   Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

280 The Sex You Want with Rena Martine

 Caitlin V is a sexologist and researcher who helps people gain confidence and improve sexual performance. For the past decade, Caitlin has empowered thousands of couples from more than 150 countries with her expert knowledge and scientific approach, which no doubt had some role in her YouTube channel reaching more than 450,000 subscribers and 65 million views in just 3 years of production. Caitlin is the creator of the Come When You Want Method for gaining ejaculatory control (without any pills or creams), “Legendary Lover”, a master course in unlocking the female orgasm, and the Female Ejaculation Blueprint. Today we talk about ejaculatory timing and control, erectile flow issues, body tension, “coregasms,” orgasms, and more!      Ads: Factor Meals: Head to FACTORMEALS.com/sluts50 and use code sluts50 to get 50% off Discount from Caitlin V   here! Code is SLUTS15 Caitlin V:  www.youtube.com/caitlinv   www.caitlinvneal.com   Ask a Question Here!    FOLLOW US   Twitter Instagram Facebook   Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

241 Poly Role Models with Kevin Patterson

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