Polyam Wellness

Consent is not a one-time yes. It is an ongoing conversation about boundaries, expectations, risk and the ability to stop when something changes. In Polyam Wellness E016, Alonzo Banx talks with sociologist and sex educator Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff about how consent is understood in BDSM and kink, why communication before a scene matters, what can happen when assumptions replace explicit agreements, and how alternative relationships can become complicated when they intersect with courts, custody and family life. The conversation also explores relationship compatibility, mixed monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics, and the importance of finding professionals who actually understand the communities they are serving.

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Four days after a robot-assisted simple prostatectomy, Michael sits down with Alonzo for an unusually candid conversation about what brought him to surgery and what recovery actually feels like while it is still happening. From years of worsening urinary symptoms and medications that eventually stopped being enough, to an enlarged prostate, bladder diverticula, surgery, a catheter, and the first days afterward, Michael shares the parts men rarely talk about—and the one thing he wishes he had done much sooner: learn what was happening inside his own body and ask more questions. 

Most of us were taught that the clitoris is a tiny spot somewhere near the top of the vulva. That is true in roughly the same way that saying an iceberg is the part sticking out of the water is true. In Polyam Wellness E011, Kelsey Ireland takes us beyond the little man in the boat and into the anatomy most of us were never actually taught. Where the clitoris is, how much of it exists beneath the surface, why different bodies respond differently, and why knowing the anatomy matters for pleasure, communication, medical care and understanding your own body. Finding the clitoris was never supposed to be a trick.

 Periods are normal. They can also hurt, exhaust you, wreck your sleep, upset your stomach, change your mood, and generally make an ordinary day a lot harder. In Polyam Wellness E010, “Periods Suck: A Men’s Primer,” Kelsey Ireland gives men the education most of us never got. What a period actually is, why cramps happen, what PMS and PMDD mean, when pain or bleeding deserves medical attention, what menstrual products actually do, and perhaps most importantly, how to support someone without trying to explain their own body back to them. You do not have to experience a period to understand one. You just have to learn enough to stop being useless when someone you care about is having one. 

Most men know they have a prostate. Far fewer know what the hell it actually does until it starts demanding their attention. In Polyam Wellness E009, Noah takes us through one of the busiest intersections in the male body. What the prostate does, why it can affect urination, ejaculation, fertility and sexual function, what BPH and prostatitis actually mean, how PSA testing works, and when a change deserves medical attention. It is thirteen minutes of anatomy and health information most of us probably should have learned decades ago. 

A sore, a positive blood test, or a worried phone call can create more questions than answers. This episode explains what herpes can look like, when a lesion swab is most useful, why blood test timing and index values matter, and why a low positive HSV 2 result may need confirmation before anyone treats it as a lifelong diagnosis.

An erection is not a simple yes or no signal of desire. Heather and Alonzo talk plainly about stress, medication, condoms, performance pressure, new partners, ED medication, and the many ways good sex can continue when a penis does not cooperate.

The famous story says Victorian doctors invented the vibrator because their hands got tired treating women for hysteria. The evidence tells a very different story. This episode separates the myth from the medical record and follows the vibrator from early massage machines into the history of modern sexual technology.

What do the numbers really mean when identity, attraction, behavior, and fantasy do not always line up? This episode separates the statistics from the assumptions, looks at why bisexuality appears differently across age and gender, and explains why one thought or experience does not automatically define someone’s identity.

Polyamory is appearing more often in media, relationships, and everyday conversation—but is human behavior actually changing, or are people simply gaining better language and more freedom to live openly? In this episode of Polyam Wellness, Alonzo Banks looks at the history, research, and cultural shifts behind consensual non-monogamy and asks what is really changing.