Polyamirite

G is for Grief & Gratitude

What do we do when love breaks our hearts and fills them at the same time? When grief sits beside gratitude — both insisting on being felt?

In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle explores the quiet relationship between two truths that shape every polyamorous life: love changes, and love remains.

Grief arrives when a relationship ends, when compersion doesn’t land, when metamours drift, when imagined futures dissolve. Gratitude arrives when, despite all that, something inside you still whispers thank you for what was, and what still is.

In non-monogamy, we’re told to focus on abundance and joy, but grief and gratitude are part of that abundance too. They’re the pulse of love in motion, the reminder that endings and beginnings share the same breath.

What if grief isn’t an interruption of love, but its continuation?

And what if gratitude isn’t the denial of pain, but the way we stay connected to what’s real?

Through honest reflection, stories, and body-based practices, Chelle invites listeners to see grief and gratitude as co-conspirators in healing… two lenses that help us keep our hearts open, even when they ache.

💡 In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

✅ Recognize the many faces of grief in polyamorous relationships — from major losses to daily micro-griefs

✅ Discover how gratitude can soften grief without erasing it

✅ Map your gratitude network and honor the people who shape your polyamorous journey

✅ Reframe difficult emotions through appreciation and perspective

✅ Express gratitude creatively and physically — beyond words

✅ Practice holding both grief and gratitude in the same breath

✅ Understand how grief reshapes love, and how gratitude helps it keep flowing

Grief is love transformed. Gratitude is that love, still glowing.

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

F is for Fear

What happens when our hearts race, our stomachs drop, and our minds spin stories that keep us awake at night? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle unpacks one of the most primal, misunderstood, and unavoidable parts of nonmonogamous life: fear.

Fear isn’t just panic or terror. In relationships, it can be the quiet hum beneath jealousy, the sharp edge behind anger, or the silence after a missed check-in. It can keep us small, reactive, and guarded — or, if we learn how to work with it, it can become one of our greatest teachers.

But in the vulnerable, sometimes high-stakes arena of polyamory, fear doesn’t just disappear because we want to be “secure” or “enlightened.” In fact, opening our relationships can turn the volume up on every old wound, every cultural script, every “what if” we’ve ever carried.

What do we do when fear starts to run the show?

What if our fear is rooted in past trauma?

What if it leads us to set rules, pick fights, or pull away from the people we love?

This episode is a compassionate guide to navigating fear in non-monogamous relationships… not by pretending it isn’t there, but by getting curious about what it’s trying to protect.

💡 In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

✅ Understand fear as a survival response — and why it gets louder in polyamory

✅ Spot the hidden ways fear disguises itself as jealousy, anger, or disinterest

✅ Recognize how fear shapes behavior — from controlling rules to withdrawal

✅ Reframe fear as information instead of an enemy

✅ Build emotional regulation skills to work through fear before reacting

✅ Communicate fears in a way that invites connection instead of blame

✅ Discern when fear is telling you to pause versus when it’s inviting you to grow

✅ Use fear as a compass to clarify your values, boundaries, and desires

Fear isn’t a sign you’re failing at polyamory. It’s a sign you’re human — and you’re stretching beyond what’s familiar.

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

The Art of Bendy Love - Relationship Anarchy IRL

What happens when we strip away the scripts we’ve inherited about love, commitment, and connection? In this episode of Polyamirite, Chelle sits down with Liam Powell, non-monogamist, relationship anarchist, and board member of Love Fest Events, to unpack the radical, intentional framework of Relationship Anarchy.

RA often gets misunderstood as chaos or selfishness, but in reality, it’s about dismantling systems that tell us who and how we’re “supposed” to love—and building relationships rooted in choice, communication, and care. Together, Chelle and Liam explore what this looks like in practice: from rethinking entitlement and fairness, to navigating renegotiations with courage, to redefining what success in a relationship even means.

This conversation goes beyond the buzzword to reveal how RA can be both grounding and expansive. Whether you’re curious about RA, reevaluating your own relationship structures, or simply looking for new ways to practice intentional connection, this episode will help you:

- Understand what Relationship Anarchy actually is (and isn’t)

- Distinguish between entitlement, fairness, and negotiated agreements

- Explore the nuances of hierarchy

- Learn how to approach renegotiation as an act of love, not loss

- Reimagine what “success” in relationships can look like outside of mononormative scripts

If you’ve ever wondered what it might feel like to create relationships from a place of choice rather than default, this conversation offers both heart and practice.

Relationship Anarchy isn’t about doing whatever you want—it’s about courage, intention, and building connections that actually fit the people in them.

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

E is for Empathy

What happens when multiple hearts, stories, and emotions intertwine? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle dives deep into an emotional core of polyamorous relationships: empathy.

In non-monogamy, empathy isn’t just a nice-to-have; it is a lifeline. It’s how we stay connected through joy and jealousy, connection and conflict. But how do we practice empathy when we’re also navigating our own needs, boundaries, and fears?

From the subtle art of active listening to the messy reality of empathy fatigue, this episode is a practical, vulnerable exploration of what it really takes to feel with the people we love—without losing ourselves in the process.

Whether you’re trying to understand your partner’s feelings, struggling to express your own, or just trying to show up with more care in a web of complex relationships, this episode will help you:

- Understand what empathy actually is (and isn’t) in polyamorous relationships

- Recognize the common empathy blockers—like jealousy, overwhelm, and self-protection

- Practice empathy in a way that honors your own boundaries

- Identify signs of empathy fatigue and learn how to recover

- Build your capacity to receive empathy from others

If you’ve ever wondered how to stay emotionally available without becoming emotionally exhausted, this one’s for you.

“Empathy isn’t about being everything for everyone. It’s about being real, present, and rooted—even when emotions are big.”

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

New Life Energy

In this episode, Chelle and her QPP Michelle have a heartfelt conversation exploring the meaning of “new life energy”... that sense of renewal, vitality, and possibility that can transform the way we live. They reflect on what it means to them personally, the subtle and surprising ways it shows up in their lives, and how practices of joy and gratitude help to strengthen and sustain it. Along the way, they also open up about the challenges of cultivating a true sense of belonging, both in themselves and within community, and how vulnerability, self-awareness, and connection play essential roles in that process. This is an honest exploration of growth, authenticity, and the energy that carries us forward into new seasons of life.

As always, connection, not perfection!

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

D is for Dismantling Default Scripts

What if the way we’ve been taught to do love… was never designed for us to thrive?

In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, we travel through the tender and transformative process of dismantling the default relationship scripts we’ve inherited — and writing new ones rooted in autonomy, intention, and truth. Whether you’re exploring polyamory, reclaiming your agency, or just feeling the quiet ache that something about “the way it’s always been” isn’t working anymore, this episode offers a reflective and practical path forward.

We will explore:

- Default Scripts and naming the unconscious scripts that shape how we do love, and ask: who really wrote these rules — and do they still serve us?

- The emotional, cultural, and nervous-system-level reasons why these scripts feel so sticky — and how to begin loosening their grip.

- How to hold space for the grief, confusion, and resentment that come from trying to make old frameworks fit, and honor the pain that often precedes transformation.

- Rewriting Your Relationship Story as we step into authorship through values clarification, needs-awareness, and intentional design, so we can begin crafting relationships that feel aligned and chosen.

- Living the rewrite so we can anchor the work in real-life practice — with tools for resilience, integration, and coming back to truth in the midst of mess, fear, or change.

If you’re ready to unlearn what no longer serves you — and start building relationships that feel like home — this episode is your invitation.

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

C is for Community

What happens when love refuses to fit inside one box? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle explores the transformative power of finding — and creating — community in polyamorous and relationship-diverse lives.

From the loneliness of not being “understood” to the joy of feeling fully seen, we journey through the real barriers to building community (including shame, scarcity, and fear of not belonging), and uncover the radical potential that comes when we choose connection anyway.

This episode is a love letter to chosen family — and a roadmap for anyone craving more meaningful connection.

Whether you’re navigating non-monogamy for the first time or yearning to deepen your web of support, this episode will help you:

- Identify the barriers that keep us from reaching for community

- Understand the emotional (and political) power of chosen family

- Learn how to co-create inclusive, welcoming spaces

- Recognize that you don’t need to be “healed” to belong

If you’ve ever whispered to yourself, “I just want to feel like I’m not doing this alone” — this one’s for you. “You are not too much. You are not too complicated. You are worthy of community that honors your whole self.”

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

B is for Boundaries and Belonging

What happens when our need for connection collides with our need for self-protection? In this deep, vulnerable, and truth-packed episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle unpacks the complex tension between boundaries and belonging in polyamorous relationships.

From self-abandonment and unmet needs to practical tools for setting—and receiving—boundaries with clarity and care, this episode explores why so many of us struggle to hold onto ourselves in the name of love. We will get real about the cultural pressures that tell us to perform, to stay small, or to “just deal with it” in order to keep our place in a relationship — and how reclaiming our limits can actually deepen intimacy, not destroy it.

Whether you're new to non-monogamy or a seasoned polyam practitioner, this conversation will help you:

- Understand the difference between a boundary and a demand

- Navigate tricky dynamics like hierarchy, scheduling, and metamour tensions

- Learn language and scripts for honest, kind boundary-setting

- Explore how real belonging can’t exist without truth

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Can I really say no and still be loved?” — this episode is for you. “You cannot truly belong if you are constantly shape-shifting to stay included.”

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

A is for Accountability

Ever find yourself stuck in a cycle of apologizing but not quite changing? Or maybe you've been on the receiving end of a “sorry” that felt more like a brush-off than a repair. In polyamory, where our actions impact more than one relationship, accountability isn't just important—it’s foundational.

In this episode of Polyamirite, host Chelle kicks off the ABCs of Polyamory series with a powerful exploration of what it really means to be accountable. From everyday missteps to deeper moments of harm, this episode invites you to look at accountability not as punishment—but as love in motion.

You’ll hear:

- Why accountability starts with self-awareness—not just when you’re called out, but when you notice you’ve missed the mark.

- The difference between intention and impact—and why centering impact is essential to rebuilding trust.

- How to embody accountability through follow-through, not just words.

- Real-life polyamorous scenarios—from broken boundaries to double-booked time—and how to respond with compassion and clarity.

- How emotional avoidance and over-accommodation can quietly erode relational safety.

- Scripts and reflections for how to hold others accountable with love and how to receive feedback without shutting down.

- What it looks like when accountability becomes a daily practice—and a living, breathing part of your relationships.

Whether you're just starting out in non-monogamy or are deep in the weeds of complex dynamics, this episode will help you ground yourself in truth, navigate mistakes with grace, and move toward repair—not just resolution.

You’ll walk away with tools, language, and gentle courage to keep showing up—honestly, imperfectly, and with your whole heart.

Listen now and remember:

Accountability doesn’t change the past.

But it can transform your future.

Polyamirite | Relatable Content for Polyamorous Humans

Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

Episode 011: Imposter Syndrome

Ever feel like you’re faking it in your polyamorous journey? Like you’re not “poly enough,” too jealous, or just not measuring up to the highlight reels you see online? You’re not alone-and you’re not an imposter.

In this episode of Polyamirite, host Chelle dives deep into the tender, often unspoken experience of imposter syndrome within polyamory. Chelle unpacks why self-doubt and outsider feelings are so common in non-monogamous communities.

You’ll hear:

- What imposter syndrome looks and sounds like in polyamorous relationships-across different roles, stages, and identities.

- The three big themes: comparison spirals, emotional perfectionism, and identity invalidation.

- How cultural scripts, social media, and intersectional marginalization make these feelings stronger.

- Practical steps to identify, name, and untangle imposter syndrome when it shows up.

- Coping strategies and cognitive shifts to help you ground yourself, build resilience, and reclaim your unique path in polyamory.

- Affirming reflections and gentle reminders that your version of polyamory is valid, even when it doesn’t look like anyone else’s.

Whether you’re new to polyamory, solo poly, a hinge, a metamour, or just feeling unsure if you “belong,” this episode offers tools, compassion, and community. You’ll leave with the sense that you are enough, your struggles are not disqualifications, and you deserve to take up space-messy feelings and all.

Listen now and remember: You’re not alone. You’re not failing. You’re becoming. And that is more than enough.

Polyamirite | Relatable Content for Polyamorous Humans

Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart