Contact Info

Alan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.

With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.

His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.

As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.

Website www.theloveengineer.rocks

Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/

Larissa Astara Gray

Larissa Astara Gray is on a heartfelt mission to transform the way we talk about sex, connection and belonging. With her lived experience of trauma, recovery and reclamation, she brings authenticity, sensitivity and real world wisdom to conversations that are often shrouded in shame or silence.

Drawing from years as a speaker, facilitator and educator, Larissa unpacks complex topics, from pornography’s hidden impact and consent dynamics, to how our early stories shape intimacy and how sexual self-worth ties into connected relationships.

Website https://larissaastaragray.co.uk/

Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/larissa-astara-gray-a98374202/

Summary

In this engaging conversation, Alan Watts, known as the Love Engineer, shares his transformative journey from a disastrous dating life to becoming a relationship coach.

He discusses the importance of self-awareness, personal development, and the dynamics of modern relationships, including the impact of pornography and social media. Alan emphasises the need for healthy communication and consent in intimate relationships, while also addressing the challenges young men face in today's society.

The discussion culminates in valuable insights and advice for the next generation on building meaningful connections and understanding their own identities.

Takeaways

Alan's title as the Love Engineer reflects the blend of emotion and logic in relationships.

His journey to coaching was born from personal challenges and a desire to help others.

Self-awareness is crucial in understanding relationship dynamics.

Many clients focus on external issues rather than their own contributions to relationship problems.

The relationship with oneself is foundational to all other relationships.

Education around porn and its effects on relationships is essential.

Social media complicates modern relationships with instant gratification.

Healthy masculinity involves balancing strength with emotional awareness.

Young men should seek role models and define their own identities.

Chapters

01:06 Alan's Journey to Becoming a Relationship Coach

04:45 Lessons Learned from Divorce and Personal Growth

08:03 Understanding Client Dynamics in Relationship Coaching

10:37 The Birth of Relationship Revolutions Podcast

14:01 Exploring Resources Beyond Coaching

15:58 Discussing Porn Education Awareness Week

19:08 The Impact of Porn on Relationships

22:45 The Importance of Emotional Safety in Intimacy

24:15 Navigating Addiction and Healthy Boundaries

28:32 The Party Life and Its Consequences

29:58 Understanding Inner Change and Escapism

31:04 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships

33:54 The Dangers of Instant Gratification

37:02 Body Count and Its Implications

40:13 Empowerment vs. Exploitation in Modern Platforms

41:48 Navigating Masculinity in Today's Society

45:56 Finding Balance in Masculinity and Femininity

48:10 Creating Your Own Identity and Relationships