Excerpt: "The hardest part of this practice for me is when I feel like I am making others’ lives harder (particularly my wife) by asking for help. It has take a long time to be okay with other people helping even when they have to sacrifice something to do so. I am really willing to do this on my end, but I don’t like “putting people out.” In fact, the feeling of seeing someone struggle to do the thing I was supposed to be doing has been enough to push my buttons of reactivity and then I re-engage to try to keep them from being uncomfortable.

Well, that’s a rough cycle to be part of and I am learning that sometimes our lives do inconvenience others and sometimes our conditions in life do make life harder for those we love.

To fight it is to really increase our own suffering and the suffering of those trying to help.

What I can do is honor the body and mind and to express gratitude for the sacrifices being made."