In another parallel to parenting, a big chunk of leadership is about being the kind of example that lifts everyone up. If you're not giving out the same level of respect and integrity you'd expect to receive, then don't be surprised if trust doesn't come your way. Being right there in the heat of things with your team helps them see you as dependable and solid – more a part of the team than an outsider. Just like in parenting, showing off perks or treats that others don't have access to can end up costing you their respect, interest, and trust.