What if your brain isn't expecting the worst because you're pessimistic? What if it's trying to protect you?

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to say, "Of course..." when something frustrating happens, but "Can you believe it?" when something wonderful does?

 In this episode, Trish explores a powerful concept in neuroscience that she has come to think of as Prediction as Protection. Our brains are constantly using past experiences to predict what might happen next. Those predictions are designed to keep us safe, but they also influence what we notice, how we interpret the people we love, and even what we believe is possible for ourselves. 

When our brains learn to expect disappointment, the bright spots don't disappear. They simply become harder to notice. Moments of kindness, connection, growth, and hope don't disappear, but they can become much harder to see when our brains have learned to keep scanning the horizon for storms.

Through personal stories, reflections on her relationship with Ben, and practical neuroscience, Trish explores how these protective predictions shape our relationships, our healing, and our everyday lives. More importantly, she shares why those predictions are not permanent.

As we intentionally notice new evidence, our brains can begin updating what they expect. Little by little, we can repave the familiar roads we've traveled for years and create space for greater safety, connection, hope, and possibility.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why our brains naturally develop protective predictions.
• How past experiences shape what we notice in everyday life.
• Why disappointment often feels expected while joyful moments feel surprising.
• How Prediction as Protection influences our relationships and the way we see the people we love.
• Why compassion begins with understanding what our brains are trying to do.
• How noticing new experiences helps our brains revise old predictions.
• Why healing isn't about ignoring life's storms, but learning to recognize that the bright spots have been there all along.

Sometimes the most important changes don't come from changing the world around us.

Sometimes they begin by gently changing what our brains have learned to expect.

If you and your partner are ready to co-create the roadmap to the relationship of your dreams, join us for the next in-person "Getting the Love You Want" Weekend Couples Retreat! 

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